Can’t cope anymore

It's so hard when you don't have a village to help you out 😭😭 have you told your health visitor?

Im sorry girly this is the hardest part when they are so tiny. When your bf is home from work can he not make dinner and wash the bottles so you can have some sort of break? I guess he’s got the baby at that point! It gets easier as bubba will nap longer in the day and sleep longer at night xx

@Monina I next see her when his 1🤣 to be honest I found her really unhelpful. She told me to stop letting the baby sleep before putting him in the next to me, put him in half awake instead, well tried that last night and that’s the main reason I’ve had no sleep, he would be wide awake or last 8 minutes! I love him so much, and feel so guilty that I’m not enjoying this time, I feel so sad as I thought it would be a really special time xxx

@Amanda that’s the thing the baby is really hard work so we can’t put him down, my boyfriend would make dinner and do all the cleaning etc if I held the baby but by the point he comes home I need to tap out! He hasn’t slept longer than 2hrs 45 minutes straight of a night so far and even then after that point he wakes up every half hour 🙃xx

Can you try put him in the baby carrier for one nap in the day? I do this with our baby who only contact naps and it means i can prep tea, tidy up a bit etc so so much doesn’t need done at night x

@Louisa this is one thing I haven’t tried, which I need too! It’s just I can’t work out how to do the carrier up, but will try find the instructions later! Xx

Sounds like our first baby! He was very needy and colicy. I’d second trying a baby carrier - it was a life saver. The sleep unfortunately I think is just luck as to whether you have a baby that sleeps well or not. We did sleep training at 6 months eventually as he was waking hourly and couldn’t be put down to sleep in his cot. It’s awful! and I know it’s not very helpful to say - but it does get better when they get a little bit older - hopefully even just a month or two down the line!

it took me a bit of practice to manage it alone! I would struggle and he’s get upset and i’d give up but one day i just managed it and it’s been such a game changer for me!!

I could have written this post myself last week! I got to breaking point. My partner works night shifts too so it's on me pretty much 24/7. I brought a baby carrier that i could easily pop on myself (ergobaby embrace) and it's been a life saver!! I can get things done and my baby loves being in it.. don't get me wrong, the lack of sleep is still very hard but I'm now able to get those household chores done so that I'm able to sit down and not feel as overwhelmed or go for a walk with the dog and the baby strapped to me instead of in the pram xx

I’d also suggest investing in a baby carrier or baby bouncer. I have a 12 week old and we was the same, he’s very much a Velcro baby to the point he didn’t even give me 5 minutes to make a sandwich so I was waiting till 7/8 at night when my partner was home from work and able to cook for us. Since have the carrier though it’s made life so much more easier and recently he is wanting that bit of time away from me but also wants to be within eyesight of me 😆 so will sit in the bouncer in the kitchen and watch me potter around cleaning and washing up.

Also my baby hates the next to me too so it meant me holding him all night, I didn’t want to but I gave in and let him sleep next to me in our bed just removed everything so it’s a safer space. It does mean my partner is at the side of us on an air bed so definitely not for the long term but I am getting my sleep and little one is sleeping from 11pm till 7am although does fidget but if I put my hand under his bottom drifts back off.. we’ve slowly started introducing gentle sleep training now he’s a bit bigger and I didn’t want to use the cry it out method so looked into gentle sleep training instead and we’re making small steps forward with very small but I can see a light at the end of the tunnel.. and to get him used to the next to me I even put him in it in the day while I’m getting ready or if I’m ever upstairs and he’s starting to lay there happy in it rather than screaming