Am I in the wrong

I feel as if this isn’t spoken about a lot. But I have a fkn slack best friend, she only really comes over for dinner or when suits her type of thing which I mean doesn’t bother me too much. But my baby’s 6 months old and she hardly done anything with her and the reason I’m posting this is cause we have a trip away planned, with me my partner my best friend and my partners best friend but she’s just bailed like usual and I’m super pissed off because I paid for the accommodation and obviously I have paid extra for her to stay, now that she won’t be. Also the fact is my first time away from my baby so my question is am I in the wrong for being fkn pissed? When I paid and planned so much

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Doesn't sounds like a very good friend, I'd be really annoyed x

Has she been distanced since your baby has been born?

@Amber no she’s been like this the past couple years like one week she loves spending time me and the next she wants nothing to do with me and it’s really annoying me, but I keep her around cause I legit have no other friends

@Shanae hmmm does she have kids?

@Amber nope

@Shanae sounds like a half ass best friend. Friendships really change after you have children. I had to tell my best friend that she was being half ass after I had my daughter. I would just talk to her and tell her all your feelings.

@Amber thank you xx

@Shanae absolutely!💜

I’ve had a few friends like this and although it suck’s to not have many or no friends sometimes it’s just better to go separate ways. That’s what I ended up having to do, was tired of feeling used and when I needed a friend she was never actually there for me. Definitely keep looking for friendships on apps like this or maybe join a women’s group from church? If religious.

Could she have her own shit and and own drama she’s dealing in her life that’s sometimes why she’s close and sometimes why she pushes you away? Many times it’s not us, it’s them. Meaning they’re going through shit and we don’t know about it, and think they’re doing it on purpose until we find out, what she’s actually been going through. I get that she flaked and I would be annoyed also coz you planned and you payed.. but ask her if she’s okay? Like truly okay. I lost a friend beuase she was going through DV and instead of reaching out and leaning on her gfs, she blocked the whole group because I think she was feeling shameful and didn’t want us to judge her

@Kellie I will agree with this, to add onto my best friend being absent when my baby was born, she didn’t even realize that she was being a shit friend even though she hasn’t said, I know it’s because she was having a hard time having a baby, so I’m sure it wasn’t easy for her to see me with my child. That’s why I always say they can’t read your mind so having a heart-to-heart conversation is a start.🤍

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