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@Brooklyn i haven't brought it up yet since it literally hit me today that it did bother me.. honestly before i was just doing it to do it ya know. being SO tired and all.
I’d speak to your husband about it and just talk about it because what he doesn’t know he can’t help change. Think about getting a toy into the bedroom which might help speed things up for you too. But remember it’s hard when you have children to find time for yourselves and you’ll be thinking about things which in turn cause you to find it harder to find the big O especially as a woman.
Kathryn has a great point. He can’t fix what he doesn’t know. I always told my husband I would never lie about an orgasm, it’s not fair for me or to him. If he thinks I did finish when I didn’t, then he’s just gonna do the exact same thing that I don’t like, that he doesn’t know I don’t like. Communication is really important when it comes to sex. You got this! And you don’t have to be “confrontational” just say you want to take your time, or mention getting a toy because you wanna spice things up 🤷♀️
Oh girl. Id be resentful too. You just gotta ask for help. If you don’t finish when he does say “can you help me?” And have him help you finish. Let him in on it and it’ll spice it up. It only takes a few times and he’ll know that it’ll be a part of the routine now. Buy a toy or have him buy you one. Involve him and it might feel new and fun for both of you.
Have you talked to your husband about this? My husband and I got to the point where we felt rushed, so we actively had to slow ourselves down, and just have fun with it.