Am i being dramatic
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@Sarah i totally get that some couples don’t do anything, and when that’s communicated between you both that’s perfectly fine. But we have always celebrated things like this together, and just something i think helps keep the spark alive, for us at least, and i did expect something - hence us thinking about a budget and me getting him some bits. It’s just the lack of effort i feel has upset me
@Amanda Thank you i’m glad you agree with me. We have had many talks in our relationship about things like this - especially his lack of effort, i even broke up with him once over it. I feel this is just something i’m going to have to accept from him and return the favour
I personally don't care for valentines day, all I've done is bought us a nice meal deal from Tesco, we don't buy gifts for each other or do cards. However, if you've always made an effort with each other, then I'd be asking him why he didn't this year
You're not being over dramatic. I would also feel incredibly hurt. You clearly communicated expectations by discussing a budget. Even beyond that, for him to sign the card in front of you, was hurtful. I think you need to have a serious discussion about effort and expectations, with clear boundaries in place. And if he refuses to put in effort, then he needs to get the same effort in return. Shower your children with gifts and love and don't put in the effort for your partner if he isn't going to put in the effort for you.