Feeling like a shell of myself

I’m 35, have a 2 year old and am pregnant with my second. I feel like I’ve just become a cardboard cut out of myself, I’ve lost my personality. I used to have whimsy, likes and dislikes, hobbies, opinions, etc, and I feel like I’ve lost all of it. I’ve become a robot that just gets through the day, and I know that there is no end in sight for some time due to new baby. I have very little time to myself, but whenever I do have time I have no idea what to do with it because I have no hobbies. I’ve moved across the world, and then across the country and so I have no friends. I can’t even figure out something that interests me to try out when I do have free time again. Feeling very stuck and really not enjoying this phase of myself. Any advice appreciated xxx

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I would say you need to try to make some mummy friends- try out some new mum and baby classes and try to chat to the other mums - I can guarantee there will be others feeling the same. Once you find your tribe you will feel more like yourself again! It can feel very isolating being a mum with no friends or family for support. Sending hugs!

I feel the same like my whole identity, life, and personality have changed. I do think it will help to have mom friends and I hope that comes when my kids are school age. I don't have advice just know you aren't alone, us mamas are the strongest people ever, and we are in the thick of it. I truly believe brighter days are ahead when kids are older and easier. ❤️

I'm in the process of moving and what I've discovered is i actually have a lot of time in the day if I'm not scrolling or watching TV. Before moving it felt like there wasn't enough time in a day or how to find time with my 6 month old. Or could only get 1 thing done every day. Obviously, this busyness won't last too long, and I'll have the choice. Continue to get stuff done while baby is in the room or sleeping or sit and scroll / TV All this to say. Take baby steps. Make a 1% better choice every minute of the day. We all know what's best for us or healthy but we choose not to. 1% better every day feels so good as it slowly starts to compound. You've got this mama 👍💪

I’m in the same boat hun. Life’s shit

Could you find a volunteering job where you can do a few hours here and there? Could your lo go to preschool a few hours so you can have some ‘you’ time? I think working is such an important part of my life it’s the only time I can just leave everything else at the door and be just me.

It wasn’t until my youngest turned 18m that I came across free salsa lessons and started going and I’ve immersed myself into the salsa dance community the last couple of years. When my baby was young all I did was attend groups and was out all day w the baby- I had friend catch-ups regularly but they were quick at 2-3hrs, I had to get home to my baby. You’ll find that when the youngest turns around 18m they’re more independent and you’ll have more time to yourself. That’s only 2ish years away. For now focus on your pregnancy focus on finding some play date buddies for either the toddler or the baby- some mums you have call and hang out with. We start to flourish again (get our pink back) after the 1yr mark I find, w help from the partner.

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