Your mantras?
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@Ashley yeah…i have accepted the fact that I’ll never be happy being with friends, accept that I can’t go out like I used and me time & self care is at home when the baby is asleep. What do you say to yourself when you accept defeat?
My mantra is f
amp;k it…. When things take me to the darkest place, it’s clear if I am willing to feel like death for it, it’s best to live however I want. People will talk either way. Take the best of shit choices IMO, and let the rest fall in place. It’s been a better life since.@Nika FCK IT! I love that but what does that mean really? What do you do? Like do other things to make yourself feel better? If so, what?!
This is only temporary
@Jenn that is what I say. That’s what works for me! To me defeat in this scenario is more about accepting change rather than saying you’ll never be happy. Your happiness might just have to be resourced differently and in a new way. Using words like never, doesn’t give you the chance to be happy. Things will never be as they use to be but that doesn’t mean you can’t and won’t find happiness in them again.
@Ashley Completely understand. I’ve accepted the fact that I’ll be unhappy for now and eventually find happiness later so sometimes it’s frustrating when others try so hard to help and say “Do self-care” and “give yourself grace” when it’s learned so it’s harder when I have PPD/PPA and impossible for me ):
I accept defeat. It may seem dark but it’s just away that I’ve been able to acknowledge change being hard and that things aren’t always going to go my way IE. getting an extra 30 minutes of sleep in the morning.