I feel like a bad mum

Your not a bad mum, you miss yourself. You’re allowed to miss your old self, it sounds like you’re struggling with postpartum depression and stress. Your a good mum you just need help and that’s okay 💕💕 I had ppd too it gets better trust me darling you’ll get there xxx

You’re not a bad mum at all!! It’s completely normal to miss having time for yourself and just want to do basic things like have a bath/shower. Our needs take a massive back step and everything we do is for our babies to keep them happy and healthy. Don’t feel bad for wanting basic things like sleep, a wash, just a moment to yourself because you certainly aren’t alone! Unfortunately I don’t have a solution other than I stick my little one in his bouncer whilst I jump in the shower so I can see him still. My baby only ever contact naps so I have very little time to myself and just make the most of dad being home to have a few mins to myself or a bath in peace, hope this helps lovely! X

My baby sleeps incredibly well and I still feel like this quite regularly, I love her so much but I just miss my time and doing things I want to do (and doing nothing!). People say make sure you make time for yourself but it's really not that simple and doesn't take away from the fact that it's day in day out, one evening off doesn't change that. BUT - it won't be like this forever and we have to go through this period to get to the loveliness we all pictured when we imagined our lives with children. Just take it one day at a time ❤️

Not a bad mum at all, we almost definitely feel this at times! I'd suggest you make sure your baby's father gives you some time to yourself, and doesn't make some lame excuse as to why he can't! It's perfectly ok to accept offers of help from friends and family aswell x

Definitely not a bad mum. I feel like this all the time, my partner is in the army, and is away monday - friday. I want to be able to have a shower without frantically rushing or a relaxing bath, to wash my hair, watch a programme without a baby screaming or go out without having to plan and pack the kitchen sink 🤣. But I tell myself it won't be like this forever it is just a small amount of time and then I look at my eldest who's 10 and she's like a proper little individual now who has so much independence. X

I cried so much this week feeling guilt about having these feelings. I’ve even cried because my tea has gone cold multiple times before drinking it. This is the trenches, it’s impossible for most people not to feel this way at some point. Speaking about it helps even though it can be hard to admit to loved ones. I felt ashamed telling my partner yesterday but getting it off my chest helped then he made sure to create some time for me and I managed to have a shower and actually wash my hair which helped give me a boost but the few days before were rough. I also made a playlist of songs that give me a boost and force myself to have a little dance even if I’m not in the mood as apparently that boosts oxytocin. Feeling more myself today but I know it will be a rollercoaster of emotions.