SAHMs - how do you do it everyday?
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It is really hard, I struggle 90% of the time.
I get the shower thing. I can notice when my mental health isn’t so good because I just don’t do it. The thought of getting into the shower and having to get undressed, wash and then get out and be cold is just generally such a HARD thing for me to do. No one really gets that, unless you have the same thing. It’s really hard being stay at home. I feel like my ability to be mum and be a good mum is starting to drop and so I’ve decided it’s the right time to find a job and send my girl to nursery for a few days a week. I noticed I’m on my phone more, using screens more, being less fun and good at playing etc and it’s so not what I want for my child, so that’s where the decision came from.
Playgroups helped me speak to other mums that were in similar situations
I've actually started putting her in her room to play with the monitor on when she's in a good mood so I can get a 10 minute shower whilst keeping an eye on her! If she's happily playing I'll even dry my hair sometimes like I'm fancy 😂 having the day planned out helps me, I like to get up in the morning and give her a couple of options then as she still naps quite early we tend to go out in the afternoon, the library is a favourite, or even just to the shop to split the day up. We have a membership for forestry sites round us so have quite a few parks/trails etc to choose from. She also likes 'helping' me with chores, we got a little Henry for her birthday so she can hoover with me lol, that helps me feel like I've achieved something! Sometimes days are just a write off and we put numberblocks on for a bit so I can keep my sanity 🤷🏼♀️
I think probably best to let toddler play in a safe place whilst you shower. You should shower to at least give yourself a few mins a day . Make it a necessity before you leave the house xxx
Shower with your child!! My LG either comes in with me, or sits on the toilet with her teddies whilst I have a quick one! I try wash my hair at night when my partners home so I have more time! I’m 29 weeks pregnant with 2nd baby, I’m not a sahm fully, but I am as I only work part time, Saturday and 2 short evenings. I do my absolute best to meet up with people if I can. My mums away this week (who I see 2-3 times a week) and I feel super lost, so gonna go McDonald’s tomorrow to break the day up, and hopefully role-play play area (as I can’t get up slides or other bits now) so she can play and get me out tbh so I don’t go mad!! I also tend to find I chat to other parents/grandparents or staff then as well and gets me out x Where are you in the country?