Question; I’m pregnant with my first and I have family eager to meet him ofc. The problem is they want to come the day after I have him.. Do you typically have energy for that?
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No, you will be exhausted physically and mentally. I’d say give yourself at least a week and don’t commit to a day in advance. Tell them you’ll let them know when it’s a good time once you’re home and settled. They don’t need to come to the hospital that is not helpful for anyone.
Absolutely not! Your body will have just went through it. There are so many doctors and nurses In and out, you aren’t sleeping and it can be a bit over whelming. I would just tell my family I’ll let you know how I feel day of if I’m feeling up for visitors.
What is helpful, is having someone cook for you
It’s not selfish. Plus, baby’s immune system is fragile. I told my family to leave me alone until my son had his first vaccines. Set boundaries now
Not selfish at all! I had my son late on a Thursday so didn't tell anyone till the Friday morning. MIL came saturday and my mum came Sunday. I wish I'd waited a couple of extra days. It's your body, your baby and your choice, anyone who cares for you will respect that.
Whatever you decide is valid and should be respected! Do not feel obligated to allow anything you arent comfortable with ❤️ With it being your first, I would wait and see how youre feeling and invite people when YOU are ready! We didnt let anyone come to the hospital and aside from my in laws (my parents live in another state/country) no one was allowed to visit until after 1 month
You're not being selfish at all. You're going to be shattered physically and mentally, wanting to care for and bond with your new baby. It's a lot, and people should be respectful of your wishes. Just say "thanks for offering to come so soon, I'll let you know when we're ready for visitors" or something 😊
I didnt let people meet my new arrivals until I was ready. We ended up back.in hospital with both children so that was one thing. But I didnt feel up to visitors and esp after the hospital trips I couldn't risk anyone making baby sick in those firts days so most people were kept away for at least a month
Not at all selfish!! It’s called self care and boundaries! I’m not letting anyone besides my immediate family around baby for the first month. Then I’ll gradually allow ppl to visit as baby builds a strong immune system. I plan on have a baby reveal via video call. Everyone at the baby shower will let me know when they desire to meet baby & I’ll video call them instead of letting them come close to baby.
Absolutely not selfish! We had grandparents visit whilst we were still in hospital (which was lovely) but the in laws came every day for first few days we were home and that’s where I struggled. If we have a 2nd child, I’d still allow hospital visits but have a full visitor ban for at least 2 weeks when home to get settled. I’d definitely set some boundaries now before baby is born though, just in case you wanted time to settle first - it’s much easier to have those conversations before baby arrives!
We made everyone wait a week after our son was born, so we could have our intimate family bonding time. It's not selfish and there is no obligation honey. It's not far for people to expect you to do what they want on their time. This will be your special time with baby and partner. Be honest and stand your ground ❤️ good luck momma
Not selfish! Make them wait as long as you want. We allowed our parents to visit a few days after birth, but no other visitors for the first 2 weeks. We had absolutely no energy for it. Babies are nocturnal for the first two weeks while they adjust to being out of the womb, so you’ll be up all night. It gets a lot easier after that though.
Thanks everyone I appreciate all of the insight. I told. I ended up telling my family they’ll need to wait.
That's not selfish, I personally had most people wait until my baby was at least a month old but a couple immediate family members got to come visit after baby being a week old. Do what makes you comfortable.