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Have you tried marriage therapy? It really helped my marriage.
Hey Adriana how r u
Assuming it’s not an abusive situation, can you try marriage counseling? It took a really long time (years 😩) but I’m starting to climb out of the hole. There was progress along the way like releasing the resentment, but better communication better behaviors took a long time. Parenting is so so hard and with martial issues it’s that much harder. Also if you have any mental problems ADD, depression, etc. or if your kids have any issues it’s just that much harder on top of everything.
3 small children with test your marriage, yourself and raising them. It’s okay, talk to your husband about how you’re feeling.
Are you in my mind because that’s exactly how I feel and the exact situation too, 3 kids. We’ve retried marriage counseling and I’ve even wrote him a letter expressing my feelings and still I feel like nothing is changing
I felt that way with just one kid with my ex-husband. That tells you how that ended. I did try. I talked to him. I expressed myself. I listened to him. He wouldn’t go to therapy, so I did by myself. It just got worse. I had to make a change, because I was no longer the best mother I could be. I’m not at all saying you should just get divorced. I would say to try counseling, be open, listen to your partner as well, and really give it a try. If things don’t change though, please don’t be afraid to do what is best for you and your kids. My daughter had to adjust. It’s not easy. She got a calmer mom and a better dad though. Without me there, he had to step up and be a father. I’m remarried to a man who actually tries now. Neither of us are perfect, of course. But we both put in the effort. I have step daughter and son on the way. I was scared to go through what I did and of how it would affect my daughter, but we’re both better off.
Mama, just know that with small children, marriages can be tested. You are tired, likely overwhelmed, have no time for you or your relationship. This is common. Still, not to excuse any lack of help, support or understanding from your husband but know, these can be some of the toughest years. Hugs! Try and do something for yourself.