Friends that don’t have kids…
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I expect friends who don’t have kids to become distant. It’s apart of life. You will outgrow some friends but that means better ones will come. Your real friends will understand and embrace your changes though. I wouldn’t stress it. Babies and marriage tends to be the phases where people lose close friends. I especially wouldn’t expect a guy to be able to relate either.
I agree with @Jennifer. Hugs to you
Definitely! One just stopped talking to me entirely. Those that understand stick around and respect that your life has changed. I accept that the dynamic will be different since our priorities are different especially in the early stages. It may also be him being a guy and not knowing how best to support you or relate. Maybe try including him with a family dinner so he can build a connection with the baby. Some friends do get jealous as well when they are no longer a top priority. Hoping thats not the case. Hugs 🫶
Yupp! I have lost a handful of friends once I became a mom. Or even friends who are moms who have help from their family members and I don’t. When people are in different situations or phases in life it’s hard. They don’t get that we can’t do things, or go places, or are tight for time, or things come up. I’m so sorry you’ve gone through it
My best friend wasn't a guy but I did lose touch after she had a baby for about 2 years. Then I had a baby and now we're closer again but not where we were from priorities. Could just take time.
Friends without kids never will understand your struggle and what you are going through...I will give you an example, my best friend without kids made a very bad comment knowing no one is helping me with a newborn, she commented that my place is not clean enough...I was shocked...but knowing her how is she Is totally normal for her to make this comments....I did not talk to her for a while, then I had my second baby, she emailed me sudenly , I told about baby, she did not say congratulations...instead of she asked me if I started my uni as it will be a good example for my children...this person is very clever, but because she never been through motherhood she never will understand my struggle...we are on totally different waves
First I want to say I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it must feel pretty awful since he’s your best friend. :( I haven’t had a baby yet but I’ve been on the other side when I was younger and struggled to adjust to a changing friendship due to a friend entering motherhood (I wasn’t angry but it was difficult to relate in the same way) Babies change everything up! Now might be a good time to bring up these thoughts with him and have a conversation about it. Hopefully he can readjust his attitude!