Why do we want to have kids?
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it’s tough you gotta figure out how to manage the time so you don’t go insane. Shower when they’re asleep maybe play some white noise in your bedroom while baby is sleeping so the shower doesn’t sound so harsh. And if you do scheduled screen/time i find thats the best way to have a break-if its on all the time they wont care about it. I threw away a bunch of my toddlers toys the other day cause i was so sick of picking them up all the time. Throw out anything you don’t need and are sick of picking up. Waking up before the kids and just having that quiet time to yourself even if its just 15 minutes can help a lot with stress-make sure you’re taking care of yourself and getting enough nutrition-I notice skipping breakfast I’m a lot more irritable. I also have noise cancelling headphones when I feel really over stimulated. Finding activities to occupy your kids will be the best thing and tiring them out.
Also reach out to any support systems if you have them-family friends etc. you need a break! You can look into hiring a cleaner even if its just one day or a sitter even if its just to have a nap. If you have a bf/husband give them certain chores or activities with the children to pick up-hopefully they already do without you having to ask.
We have kids to give the world a better future. To raise children to be adults we want to see in the world. To help, to heal, to create.
I had a child because it was what I wanted, I loved caring for them, helping them grow and I was excited to create a human who I could provide for and help get them to adulthood. If they end up as mature, civilised adults I got them there. I hope they do better than I did in life and take pride and joy in that role of motherhood to try to get them there. That is my motivation. I can't be lazy, I have to discipline, I have to clean them, wash them, clean up after them and show them how to clean up after themselves, teach them and yes, give up my time for them and I'm happy to do that because I want to be a mother. The love I have for them is all worth it.
I can think of many reasons to and not to have children, but I think it SHOULD always be worth it, and for most it will. Our children will be the new adults living with everything that we put in them. Your babies are going to grow up and be what YOU put inside of them. 🤍✨
Also I have 4 babies also and this was my worst mommy week ever I think 🥺. Please message me and we can just mommy talk the great and not so great about being a mommy if you wanna.
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Use this as an opportunity to raise your babies differently, not another generation where thinking this is all there is to life for us.
I wanted to know what love was
I feel you and I also feel all the different comments and perspectives. How old are your kids? Can it be time to start giving them chores? Also, if you can’t manage to get a shower in while baby sleeps, maybe put her in a rocker with a toy in the bathroom, as you shower. If you don’t take these moments for your self care for yourself (and it sounds like you haven’t in many years), you’ll end up going crazy! I know you want to be a good mom and it sounds like you made them your priority, but don’t forget: the best thing you can give your child for their development is a happy mother. I feel like it’s so important to remind ourselves that self care is an important thing to live for our family as well ❤️. I made a list with all the things that do me well, and then when I need a moment, I check out what would feel good today
To me, that's quite a lot of kids in a short amount of time. Twins?
It's the love!!! 🥰 I also showered on the 5th day this week & put off buying clothes for way too long, but I love my babies so much. They can break stuff (it's all going to be gone on a few years anyway) they can fight with each other (it's a good learning opportunity), they can even trash the house (at this point who cares 🤣) but when they say, "I love you, Mommy," my heart just melts. They are kind, good little people, & I made them. *sigh* If I were younger & my husband were willing, I'd have 12 more. That isn't to say it isn't hard or that there aren't days when I lose my temper or need things for myself, but overall, I wouldn't want my one Life experience not to include them. You're going to get back to a place where you're able to consistently meet your own needs again. If the discipline doesn't feel good or like it's working for your kids, try something else. Kids are not for short-term happiness, they are terrible for that! It's a long game, and I already see the benefit. And I hope you do too. ❤️