Husband refusing my birth control
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Girl, who is gonna stop you? Just book the appointment.
YES it’s YOUR body we aren’t breeding machines you do what’s right for YOU and don’t feel any type of way about it! x
Yes, get it. He doesn't have to consent to you getting birth control, only having your tubes tied or other procedures like that. Do it!
Thank you everyone ❤️. I plan on it I just think I need the reassurance
It sounds like you guys might want to see a couples counselor to help you both express what you each are feeling. That being said, maybe trying a different form of birth control would be more helpful for you for when you decide if you want to try for a second. But in the end, do what you need to do for your sanity.
It typically takes 1-3 months to ovulate post IUD removal with no fertility issues (assuming there were no fertility issues). While trying for the 11 months post removal last time, were you taking ovulation tests and timing sex to align with the ovulation window? I say this because maybe you could get pregnant faster the second time around if you did ovulation testing, which would mean you can get the IUD now. I know there are so many variables. Just wanted to offer some other thoughts that might put your husband (and yourself) at ease. Please ignore entirely if fertility is an issue here.
Personally, I don’t like the idea of lying as the truth will come out eventually and that can really hurt the relationship. But I also hate that you’re in this situation because your feelings and concerns are completely valid. Couples counseling would be something I would consider.
Yes go get it. There is nothing that says it’ll take the same amount of time to get pregnant the second time if you get BC If you get pregnant before 2 yrs - it puts you and the baby at greater risks of complications - pregnancy is not health neutral. Please get your BC and don’t tell your husband.
Thank you, no I don't think I did try timing with ovulation. I haven't had any issues with my organs either. I will take that into consideration 👌
He shouldn’t have a say. If that is something you want and know it will be better for your mental health, you should be able to do that. What about using condoms if he really won’t budge? Also are you sure that is why it took so long to conceive? My OB said you can get pregnant right away
You are supposed to wait around a year to have a baby again after you deliver because there is higher ricks for complications with the next pregnancy for not giving your body enough healing time. You can get the depo shot which is 3 months, you can get the pill which is whenever you feel like it, you can do the patch on your ass, you can get the implant and get that taken out literally at any time. You may not get pregnant right away but it’s better to have the baby when you are ready and really want to than to be destroyed in the process.
I'm not sure. I didn't have an ob at the time while trying to conceive just a primary. We could use condoms but I'd have to het latex free. I'm feeling better about talking to him again. Most of it is my anxiety getting to me so I'll have to remember to take my as needed pill before hand.
@Shauna thank you, yes I loved the nexplanon bar. I had 2 of them which is what I'm wanting to get again, I had no side effects accept some weight gain which was fine with me.
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After you get it, remind him that birth control can be reversed and in some cases after you were off the birth control it’s two times easier to get pregnant
@Ariel thank you
Yes. At the end of the day you have to do what's best for you. I'm honestly thinking of doing the same thing. We just had baby #2 and I don't want to have any worries about getting pregnant any time soon or maybe ever again!
@Brittany thank you. I want to be able to enjoy our intimate relationship again without having to worry. Honestly I'm content with just 1 child. But we'll see what happens later.
At the end of the day it’s your body and your choice. If YOU have a concern with conceiving again maybe look into the paraguard. (Cooper IUD) some people have longer periods on it but if that doesn’t bother you it’s a good alternative.
@Natalie thank you, iud scare me so much. I did great with my previous nexplanon bars. That's what I'm wanting to get again.
Just do it. Like you’ve said, it’s your body and you don’t want to be pregnant. I was exclusively breastfeeding and got pregnant 6 ish months after my first. I didn’t get my period at all. Do what you need to do to feel healthy and in your body!
@Brooklyn I am! I told my husband and he wasn't very excited because he's so happy being a new dad but I explained that I need to heal mentally and physically. That I want to have time to experience being a new mom and a healthy mom.
@Brooklyn he's worried the birth control will make us take a long time again after it's out to have another one if we decide. But as someone mentioned previously, I wasnt tracking my ovulation. But I believe in God's perfect timing. When I got my bar out my gf found out she was pregnant again. At 24wks she lost him...if I had been pregnant or had a baby at the time I wouldn't have been able to be there for her like I was. I know not everyone feels that way but I try to see the positive side of why things happen the way they do.
I'm getting my nexplanon on Thursday!
Nexplanon in!!! Such a big weight lifte!! Thank you all!: Now just one more thing to do. Talk to my Husband about not wanting our son to go to his mother's chiropractor who does pressure points. He's seeing a pediatric therapist and doing great! Pediatrician says no it's not necessary and stick with therapist only
Congratulations and good luck with your next task! ❤️
@Brittany I'm doing it pretty soon I'm so sick and nervous about it. But praying hard. I'm going to need my extra anxiety pill.
Yes if you have to