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I am in the same boat message me I am always here for a rant/chat. It's been a long road for us as we had the same as you so totally understand how you feel X
Does your clinic offer counselling? If so, I’d really advise trying it. I’ve always taken up the counselling and it helped me through our first four failed transfers. IVF is such a tough process and it has taken me to some dark moments. If you feel able to confide in friends/family then do try, having support is so important. Finding distractions is what always helped me, long walks, getting outside, booking some trips and days out to keep life going on around treatment. I’m sorry you’re finding it tough. All your feelings are completely valid and understandable. X
Thank you all for taking the time to reply. I’m currently trying to source counselling. There is a waiting list with the clinic. We went self funded with the NHS. I’m 39 and I feel like I’d be flogging a dead horse even attempting any more IVF. Xx
I was 38 when our 5th transfer worked. I know I felt like time was slipping away, but late 30s is a common age in IVF. I’ve just had our 6th transfer this week to try for our 2nd and I’m pushing 40. We’ve got this!! X
@Jess how many full IVF Cycles have you had? I only ever end up with one embryos so have to start all over again every time . Low AMH sucks!
I did two egg collections, we we’re very lucky to have a fair few blastocysts each time? Though I know that isn’t everyone’s experience.
I think I can relate to how you are feeling. On my first round of IVF I had a failed transfer of my only embryo. It was shattering, and the fact that I wasn’t pregnant and wanted to be took over my thoughts completely. I had a similar aversion to other people’s babies/ pregnancies etc. The best advice I received at the time was not to beat myself up about feeling awful. You feel terrible because it is, and that’s OK. You have to be kind to yourself and sort of embrace the fact that it’s emotionally so so hard. I found that took the pressure off a bit, which helped me feel a bit better, and made me realise how strong I was for doing this. That realisation then brought me renewed inner strength. Also remember you’re not alone, even though I know how isolating it can feel. I don’t know if that helps, but sending you all my best wishes x