Loneliness advice

Hi mamas. I'm currently a stay-at-home mum to a 18-month-old boy. I'm really struggling now with loneliness. For some context, shortly before having my LO I moved with my husband to a new city for his work. I have made a couple of mum friends here over the last 18 months, but I can't say I'm very close with anyone here. I see these friends maybe 1-2 times per month? I'm in the UK and it's very common here for mums to return to work quickly after having a baby, and I don't know any other stay-at-home mums. I did meet one who I made an effort with but we were just very different people. I always take my little one to activities every day like the park or play groups, play cafes etc. But I've never been able to strike up friendships here. My family doesn't visit, aside from my mum who visits about once every 6-8 weeks for one night. I do try to visit family, but it's difficult because my son is very unsettled and clingy to me when we're staying away from home. My husbands family live in a different country to this isn't an option either. I've found myself spending a lot of time on my phone and I absolutely hate this. If I'm at home with my son and he's playing I'm looking at my phone. At first I thought maybe I've become addicted to my phone, but I actually think it's just because I'm so lonely so I'm looking for connection or distraction. I don't know what to do. But I really want to be present for my son. It's just so hard when I'm alone with him all the time and there is no one to share this experience with. Does anyone have any advice? I feel like I wish my days away waiting for my husband to come home. I also feel so bad for my son that he doesn't have any family members (apart from mum and dad) that want to see him frequently.
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No advice but I am in a very similar boat, x stay strong

Keep trying . One is bound to click (not all will) at the play groups see who ur son gravitates towards or you and just initiate conversation. Then soon get to the point and say do you want to meet up for coffee sometime , what’s your number? And go from there .you never know . U don’t ask u don’t get . Also maybe join a church community or so. It will get better !!

Following. In a similar place. All my friends and family are over 1000 miles away now.

I am in a similar situation. My family lives miles away every day I am just hoping to be blessed with good friendship.

Thanks @Phoebe although I wouldn't want anyone else to experience similar, I'm glad someone understands it!

@Salena thanks for the advice 😊 there is one mum friend who I've definitely clicked with it's just hard to meet up frequently I guess! I suppose that's why I'm feeling the lack of family company and support, as sometimes it's just easier being able to pop and see someone familiar without much effort. I am religious but not Christian, and the community that I live in is very secular so I don't think this is an option for me unfortunately.

Same ❤️

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