Would you say it’s somewhat your “duty” to help your SO keep up with their hobbies/things that make them happy

I think they can expect you to be accommodating of requests for time to spend on a hobby (within reason and assuming it’s reciprocated). But it’s unreasonable to take on the maintenance of someone’s happiness and remind them to keep up with their own hobbies.

I might prompt them, or help to ‘enable’ them to do it, for example suggesting to look after the kids that morning so they can go off and do what they enjoy etc. I don’t really think it’s our ‘duty’ to do that though, at the end of the day if someone enjoys something enough they should be motivated to keep up with it themselves.

We encourage each other to keep up with things we enjoy. For example, if there’s a sporting event I know my husband would be interested in attending I would say something like “why don’t you call xyz and see if he would want to go to the game with you? I’ll take the kids out to do something fun while you’re gone”. And he does the same for me.

Maybe if they are depressed or sad, you could remind them to take some time for their hobbies. We have 3 young children and both work full time so it can be hard to make time for ourselves. If we’re stressed out we will communicate about it and then find time for something we enjoy together or apart.

Does he have some kind of executive functioning disorder? Why can he not remember his own hobby?

I feel like in general it's both our duty to emotionally support and encourage each other in every aspect of our lives. Albeit hobbies, taking care of our health, communication etc

It’s nice to encourage each other as partners but not to control or try to demotivate them to do what they enjoy

Yes. If my partner is happier our whole family will be happier because I will too. I'm only human though, I may also forget. He also returns the favour and reminds me to do things that make me feel good

@Ella erm no but like someone said above and even say a mother with PPD and she stopped doing the things she did before wouldn’t it be a nice gesture?

If they’re in a slump and they don’t look happy then yeah, prompt and encourage them. When I get moody he tells me to ring my sister or a gf or go do one something that makes me happy, get a massage or go to the beach. If he gets moody I tell him to ring his boys and tell him to invite them fishing or golf or go motorbike riding, the things that makes him happy. But he keeps up his hobbies and I keep up mine really well, we both look forward to it. He has bowling every Wednesday and I have dance Tuesdays Fridays, that’s set in. Other hobbies are just whenever we feel like it.

No. You are responsible for you and your happiness. He is responsible for his. His unhappiness is not a burden you should carry. You can support him but it is not your duty to help him keep up. He is not a child.

I wouldn’t remind him per say but definitely give him opportunities to do what he loves and he does the same for me

Encouraged instead of remind maybe.

@Kellie thank you. You understand my question