TW miscarriage & fake pregnancy

My friend keeps faking pregnancy’s?? Like 6 in the last 2-3 years? I just don’t understand why. She’s sent me ultrasounds that I later find out they’re fake (they popped up in reverse image search and the others were printed on photo paper.) She says things that don’t make sense like she got an emergency appointment on a Saturday after finding out she was pregnant and got an ultrasound. We go to the same office and this isn’t something they do. She also said she got a dna test for the baby and got the results back the next day... never heard of that. She had me planning a gender reveal and then said she had a miscarriage even though at how far along she was (14 weeks) she would’ve needed medical care but said she passed blood clots at home. I’ve had my own struggles that are pregnancy related the last couple months and she knows that the topic of pregnancy is not easy for me and she has don’t this twice since June..? Idk what to do? Do I try to understand her or believe her every time? Do I call her out? Do I drop her?

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You should call her out

@Gemini how do I even do that

I wouldn't call her out. Some people really want a baby so they try and manifest it idk , it's not right but has she had miscarriages?

Sounds like she is having some mental health issues. If you are a close friend, I would have a heart to heart with her and tell her she needs to go speak with someone about what’s going on with her compulsion and remind her to be fully transparent and honest…I’d also reach out to her family if she has a close relative in her life. She is definitely lying and continuously obsessing for some reason. My concern is that she is displaying similar behavior to some scary situations we’ve seen end tragically in the news 😵‍💫…so I’d stay very aware, and distance as well.

has she ever actually been pregnant before or had a miscarriage? this seems like its either a delusional coping mechanism for someone who had a miscarriage or could also just be attention seeking. could be narcissism. I'd suggest saying something to her like "can i come with you to your next ultrasound, if you have nobody else to go to and don't wanna go alone?" most likely she'll either come up with some excuse to way you can't last second and you can call her out for it then

Eh, maybe this isn't the *correct* response but I would distance myself from this friend. If you're positive she's faking then it sounds like she's desperate and I've heard so many horror stories of women in those situations kidnapping babies or worse.

@Rachel no this is a correct response as well. unfortunately, womens mental health can get so bad that we can lose rational thoughts. it's better to be safe than sorry

I have to agree that she probably needs some mental help which is beyond what you can provide because you’re not a professional. I would simply tell her you’re concerned for her and then try to distance yourself if you’re able to. It sounds crazy but it could potentially become an unsafe situation so just be careful. I’m sure she’s not trying to hurt you but she’s probably just never gotten the help she needed unfortunately.

Why on earth anyone would want to fake a miscarriage is beyond me. Its the most loneliest thing I've been through. I did pass clots at home but I was supposed to be 12 weeks pregnant but had a missed miscarriage at 5 to 6 weeks. I still ended up in A&E with how much blood/ lining I lost . On scan pictures it usually would have her name, the hospital, her hospital number all at the top of the photo paper. Along with her gestation. Or it does in england so if she's cropped that out everytime then it's suspect as most ppl only do that when posting on social media. Are the pictures tbe same picture every time? Maybe she likes the attention she possibly gets from it. I'd end up distancing myself from her

If you're currently pregnant. Be very careful around her. She sounds like she's maybe lost it a little. She needs help. I don't think calling her out would benefit anyone. I'd definitely let her family know. Absolutely not normal behaviour. It makes me think her losing a baby may have triggered this behaviour. I'd handle it delicately, be careful yourself also. :( x

call her out she need help

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