Back to work

I’m feeling really shit. And I’m quite senior in my role and a lot of people are counting on me being back full time. I’ve pushed it to go back in March with 3 months unpaid and my MIL will be watching my little girl which I know I am very lucky but honestly I’m having serious anxiety thinking about leaving her as she’s really attached to me 💔 I just worry she won’t be okay

How many months will your LO be ? I’m not returning till after my LO is one because I left him at 3 months for 10 weeks to finish my nursing degree and it broke me but I only had 10 weeks so I wanted to finish hard . I did 7 till 19:30 three days a week but I have an aunt who will kill for me and looked after my baby so well. So now he’s five months and spending as much time with him till he’s one because I feel so guilty xx

@Justina she will be 10 months. I’m a nurse too and will be starting my prescriber course in March otherwise would have gone back to work in May when she’s 1

Awww bless you. It hurts doesn’t it.. he’s started getting so attached to me now

I'm feeling exactly same as you 😭 xx

I’m feeling very anxious and heartbroken 💔 Crazy as it sounds I loved Covid with my first one , because I got to spend 13 months with him 😩😩 Now my girl will be only 8/9 months old and it really breaks my heart .

The anxiety gets worse as time goes by. I pray he will love it in the nursery but if he is not settling I am probably quitting and will start looking for a WFH with flexible hours job 🙄

I feel the same my LO will be 9 months starting nursery and it breaks my heart but I cant afford not to work im going back part time in jan to ease myself back slowly 😔 💔

I'm even contemplating quitting and just being a stay at home mum atleast until he is a little bigger .....he just seems too small to be without me and the thought of handing him over to somebody else makes me feel sick 😫

@Mimi I’m the same I feel like I have to go back full time but I just don’t want to be away from her basically 5 days a week. She goes down for the night between 7-8pm so I would see her for an hour or two each night and just feel she’s still so little to be without me for that long it’s just heartbreaking x

@Tuesday I know I feel exactly the same my MIL has offered to have my girl as she’s retired and I know she will be amazing with her but I just feel like she still needs me so much. I’ve been in floods of tears since this afternoon when I spoke to my boss about KIT days and when my start back date is next year x

@Abigail I’m trying to weigh up if I can afford to go part time. Praying for a lotto win so I can just stay home with her forever 😂💖

@Marianna I totally get you it’s such a special time with them when they’re this small and it just goes in the blink of an eye. I can’t believe my girl is 6 months already and pretty much all of my mat leave is almost gone. I’ll just miss her so much x

Im not going back until 12 months but I'm already trying to work out a flexible schedule so I don't have to work 5 days 😂

It’s stressing me out because my work won’t accept my flexible hours request and I have no choice but to return to work.

@Elena same with me, very disappointed that they couldn't accommodate my temporary flexible working request 🙄

@Daria they’ve been assholes from day one! I’m returning part time as I cant afford 5 days a week of childcare nor do I want my child away from me for this amount of time. They’ve purposely given me hours that mean I can’t pick up or drop him off.. im a single mum so if I don’t do it there’s no one else who will!! Currently trying to look for another job asap before February but that’s proving difficult!

@Elena I thought that the new law came out re flexible working, they can't just deny it without giving a valid reason, did they give you one? It's terrible, so sorry you are in this situation and I hope you will manage to find a new job before February 😢 x

@Daria yes unfortunately if I do the times I need 9:30 - 4:00 it’s apparently not enough x

@Elena same here, that's why my boy will need to be 8am til 6pm in the nursery, hate the idea of leaving him there for 10 hours at the time..

Ye me too I havnt even done any kit days yet because I just feel I can't leave him and that's that whether it's with his dad or his grandma I just feel they don't what he needs like I know what he needs xx