FTM and SAHM
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My in laws are always suggesting that i go back to school or ask when im going back to work (while i was still pregnant they were buggin and i got my bachelors degree a year before i got pregnant) for them i think its their priorities are different from ours. They are very career driven. My husband grew up in daycares and after school programs and his dad was deployed probably 5 years total. If he is able to provide for us and we can put money in savings then yeah im going to stay home and be with our kids. I think they just don’t understand that
They can judge you but no one will raise your baby better than you! We explained to people that it was more beneficial especially with how much daycare costs. But again you shouldn’t have to explain to anyone.
All the time! It seems to offend people. They’re jealous tho
I turned 25 2 weeks after giving birth to my first baby this year and I decided to be a SAHM immediately after he came. 6 months later I work remote and make enough to where my boyfriend and I can both stay home with our son. I’ve heard it all from my family but choose to ignore it because it’s not their business 🤷🏽♀️
Everyone has an opinion. You can’t please all the people all the time. So choose what’s best for you and your family. If you rely on others and your decision impacts them then that’s s different story. Other that that, do you and don’t mind them.
Just know that people will judge you regardless of your choice. If you decide to be a sahm, they will judge, but they will also judge if you decide to go back to work and get a nanny or put your baby on daycare.
I became a sahgf when my retail store closed in January 2020. It worked for us. A year and a half later we were visiting family and they kept asking when I was going back to work. So I looked for something remote because I hated the judgement. I hated my work. I was there about a year and it was more stress than I needed. It caused strain in our relationship too. I really learned that others can judge all they want. I’m needed in my home. My (now) husband is grateful for all I do and prefers me not working too. With a baby, it doesn’t even make sense to us to have me work. Most of my check would just go to childcare and then we are paying someone else to raise our kid.
My husband family throws some judgements every once in a while because Im 25 and I never worked 😂 Take every judgment with a grain of salt because very few are actually worried about your independence. Most of them are jealous of the opportunity that you have. I get to nap, play with my son all day, go out, cook nourishing meals for my family and take care of my home.