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I’ve family coming over from my home country for Christmas. It’ll be my mom, dad, little sister, big sister, her husband and their 4 kids. I’m a SAHM with no income and my partner has recently been dismissed from work after being diagnosed with epilepsy. We’ve to go through Christmas and then our baby girls first birthday party on the 1st of January. On top of all this we still need to keep some money aside for bills, emergencies etc. I’ve bought a little gift for each one of them, even tho I initially planned on buying for the kids only. Anyway, I bought one gift for each adult and one gift for each of my sister’s kids. The thing is my partner has bought quite a few toys for our baby girl (some for Christmas and some for her birthday) and now I’m feeling bad that she’ll be opening a few presents and they’ll only be opening one. I think my sister will leave some presents back home for when they go back bc it would be expensive luggage wise to bring everything. But I still feel bad. My partner says I shouldn’t bc it’s not our baby’s fault and she deserves as much presents as we can get her, and that we already did well getting everyone their own present taking into account our current financial situation. Am I silly for feeling bad? Or is it really bad of us to have our daughter opening a few presents while they’re only opening one? I would appreciate some advice..

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Maybe only have everyone open one gift together and have your daughter open the rest privately?

@Raqi that’s what I thought but they’ll be here for quite a few days and are only going back after her birthday and my partner wants her to get the presents for Christmas and her birthday which is fair but makes me feel bad

Could you do an early Christmas before they get there and then let her open one on Christmas while they’re there if you feel that bad?

You aren’t obligated to get anyone a gift anyways. The point is the spirit of giving, not the amount you can give. Most of my family are getting my daughter gifts and not necessarily gifts for everyone else. I think no one is expecting to get an equal amount of gifts as my daughter (she’s the first grandkid and great grandkid on both sides of our families). I feel like, if I was your family in that situation, I wouldn’t bat an eye at your kiddo opening more presents. I would enjoy watching her open them actually, and be grateful that you got me a gift at all.

I think it's understandable that you'd get your own kid more gifts. Also, if they didn't bring their gifts from home because of luggage, it would probably be hard on them if you gave them a bunch of stuff that they had to take home. So really you're just being thoughtful 😊

Thanks so much everyone ❤️

Honestly do not feel bad. I remember as a kid we went to my auntie’s one Christmas and my uncle’s sister was there with her kids. I knew they didn’t have much money but they gave each of us a small gift. To me I felt so special they thought of us and I still treasure that gift to this day. So I think they will be hugely appreciative of everything you’re doing!

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