Hubby dosent “understand “christmas

My partner thinks I do too much but I just tell him mind his business and carry on about my day 🤣

@Sera Kay ✨ well it’s our money granted I’m the one doin the planning the shopping the running while he stays home but it’s frustrating that he Dosent view Christmas like I do bc his parents messed up and he just says I’m spoiled

Accept that you’re both different & find a compromise. Also in what way did his family mess up? They just didn’t do things the way yours did, kinda mean to say they messed up… everyone’s different. As long as he was raised right and they did right by him😅

@Aniya this is our daughters first real Christmas it’s not that he Dosent want to celebrate I think he Dosent know how bc he grew up poor and I didn’t so our vision of Christmas is different

@Chí when I say messed him up I mean like if other people bought him gifts his parents didn’t buy the other child gifts so he Dosent understand why we would be buying other peoples Children gifts like it was very self centered and I grew up everyone gets a gift so now it’s an issue

@Aniya we have celebrated Christmas he always gives me greta gifts jewelry and trips but this is our first Christmas w our child and other people children and he Dosent understand why I’m buying other peoples children’s gifts and buying our 1 year old 30 presents he thinks it’s crazy

Maybe he doesn’t believe in Christmas. A lot of people don’t. Maybe his family didn’t believe in it too. I don’t, I just do it because it’s something everyone does and I was raised to celebrate Christmas. Like I said, accept and talk to him about it so you can share how you both feel & come to a compromise. That’s all marriage is, compromise. Don’t try and force him to see things from your angle only because that can be slightly selfish, as it sounds like “if it’s not your way, then it’s the highway” 9/10 he’ll come around especially when he sees how happy it makes your baby

@Aniya I’m the one who goes crazy w gifts especially for other people children which is is issue but they buy our child stuff all the time

@Chí he does believe in Christmas tho I think he’s just worried about the money and to me money always comes back it’s all about all the kids so yes I do need to talk to him about the kids

@Aniya okay see your being nasty and I don’t fuck w that so pls don’t make me get nasty w you im genuinely asking if anyone has felt w a man who Dosent “understand” Christmas especially when it comes to other peoples children

@Aniya yet you called my man slow which is gross btw for him not understanding why our 1 year old needed to open 30 gifts just from us and why we need to buy other peoples kids gifts multiple gifts when it seems to be by your profile you don’t even have a man

@Aniya do you just put single pregnant mom at 19 for fun 😂

That’s a lot of presents for a one year old who’s gonna care more about the wrapping paper than the gifts😂 I understand that how it was for you growing up but I can see why he thinks it’s going over board as well.

@Lucy Sundin that’s where I’m in a bind bc I want everything for her and I love to see her face light up bc she does get excited even tho she Dosent understand fully I see both points but when it comes to other peoples children I think they should get a gift if their parents are buying our child a gift and he Dosent think so

@Aniya it would appear that way yeah 😂so either your slow and got pregnant by a dead beat and got in another relationship or your just slow and put that for attention since people are slow

@Aniya so you wanted attention 😂he knows how to gift me gifts he Dosent know how a 1 year old and other peoples children should be treated bc this is his first time and your not so smart getting pregnant at 19 seems a bit slow to me

@Aniya yeah he did actually he has Great job he grew up poor he isn’t poor there is a difference and I might be since your talking about my man’s slow which he isn’t ..don’t disrespect me and mine and I won’t have to disrespect you and yours his family didn’t grow up buying other people gifts in the family so it’s odd to him I have 5grand on my finger so he knows how to gift but when it comes to a 1 year old who won’t know the difference and other peoples children he Dosent get it bc I’m his priority and to me that’s a grinch bc I’m a giver to everyone

That’s a lot of gifts for a baby so small imo. I totally agree with buying other people’s kids gifts only if they’ve bought my son something🤣 I juuuust had this convo today because my friend bought her kid 8 loungefly backpacks, I was like , 8 is crazy.

@Brielle girl 5k on your finger is chump change that is not a flex

Maybe he just doesn’t see the point in buying the child loads to the point child isn’t going to play with everything and doesn’t see the point in buying every single family member when money has to be spent elsewhere ie keeping family fed, a roof over families head. I don’t think it’s about him “ being poor when he was younger” I think you both have a different view on things and it seems your quite arrogant to just assume it’s because he was from a poor family🙃

I think there's a lot of factors to consider really. It sounds to me like perhaps both of you could compromise a bit. It's completely possible to have wonderful, lovely, magical Christmas traditions and fun that don't center around unlimited gifts. It's great to give your kiddos lots of gifts and really jump into the excitement of waking up to a pile of gifts, if you're financially set up to do so. Same with gifting for kids/ people outside of your immediate family. If you can financially do so without making yourselves too tight, it's nice to gift to those who are giving your kids gifts, but if you can't afford it, they should understand that too. It could be a good chance to show kiddos how fun it can be to give gifts so they enjoy giving as well as receiving. But there are so many fun Christmas traditions that can make it magical. I'd sit down and have a conversation between both of you and find a middle ground you're both okay with.

Yeah I definitely think a middle ground can be found here. I agree with you that buying for other people’s children is kind and the “right” thing to do. But I agree with your husband that 30 presents for a 1 year old is excessive. He’s worried about money and you think money always comes back… I’m with your husband here. Spend within your means and you can still have a magical Christmas.

Also agree that it’s unnecessary. I have 5 kids and I can assure you 90% of those toys are a waste. Get him a few things that will last and he can use, and if you really want to buy a bunch of gifts why don’t you do an angel tree or toys for tots. This year all my kids got one gift and a stocking from Santa, this year they all picked angel trees and shopped for kids that actually need it.

@Aniya what the actual fuck? What disgusting things to say about a child? Why also bring her skin colour into it? Grow up.

Find a common ground with your partner and take what is being said with a pinch of salt. What is excessive to one person, is average to another. Your child may not play with them all but if you want, and can afford, to spend that much then why not?!

One year olds only care about boxes and wrapping paper lol. Maybe do a secret Santa among family so you're not getting so many other gifts. Cards are ok too.

sounds like you want to waste money and justify it by “my girl deserves the world” not one single 1 year old I know has ever cared about that many presents for Christmas or birthdays. I agree with your man your doing too much and then to be rude to others who agree with your man like why bother post 🤣🤣

@Dar no she called my man slow that why I got rude to her in particular and she loves bluey and educational and climbing toys since she’s gets taught by me so I just figured we could incorporate those things into a lessons

Read briefly of the comments. The fact your husband was raised in a poor setting he probably thinks it’s ridiculous to buy so many gifts for a one year old especially when they may not remember the entire experience and more interested in the wrapping paper. Trust me I 100% understand wanting her to open up so many gifts yet it can be planting a bad root God forbid funds isn’t where it needs to be one year, every year she’ll expect to receive so many gifts and if there’s a year you can’t shower so many gifts it may cause a problem. I’m guessing he wants her to be humble and thankful for what she does receive. Now buying gifts for other children if their parents shower your child I understand returning the gesture. Silly advice instead of buying 30 for your 1 year old break the amount out and 1 gift can go to an other child instead. So you guys aren’t spending so much money. Your husband could be thinking about going into the new year in a hole.

@Cymonee I totally get what your saying and your probably right he just goes about it a scrunched up face and like Dosent explain why he feels about certain things and just makes it seem like he just Dosent want to deal w it is alot of gifts but a lot of is like coloring books flashcards stuffed animals so the total amount isn’t too crazy that’s why I felt like he was just being a grinch and didn’t know if that was a man thing around Christmas time bc my dad never really knew what he got until we opened it and wanted to involve him more

@Brielle okay I can understand that would probably bother me too. My husband doesn’t celebrate Christmas yet we sat down and spoke on how things will be for our kids. Now when it comes to gifts more times the mothers in charge of that the fathers drive to the store or sit there and say your welcome cause they brought it. I’ll say buy a few things now for Christmas and then January or February buy some more so it’s not all at one time. Maybe that’ll help