Savings…
I want to open a savings account for my daughter . I mentioned it before but my husband thinks it’s not right to have one for our daughter but not his oldest . Problem is bm is not very financially responsible but step daughter is very much taken care of . Her mom’s side is more financially stable .
I understand what my husband is saying but selfishly … I don’t think it’s my responsibility to split what I’m saving with my daughter between both kids . I think my reasoning for that is that if I’m going to be contributing to sd financially shouldn’t I have a say in if it’s for school or a car or a downpayment on a home later ? My husband says a gift is a gift and I shouldn’t have a say . So I guess that’s what bugs me .
BMs side can afford to provide for sd . My daughter only has what husband and I can provide . I’m not saying husband shouldn’t help his daughter but I think he and bm should give what they want to their kid and husband and I provide for our daughter …
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@Josefine yea im not trying to be shady but if sd is already well provided for she isnt lacking anything . Esp if she has mom’s side supporting too . Then when it comes to my daughter my husband the majority of the time lacks money cuz he had to support sd so then it’s mostly me supporting our daughter . Idk if I’m in the wrong but I certainly don’t think it’s fair
I would suggest you do what's best for your kids. You don't call the shot with SK, but u do with ur kids, it's unfortunate if ur hubby doesn't understand this. He can open one for his other kid without asking u to contribute to it or make u feel guilty for not contributing to it. If anything happens to u, u know ur kid will have something.
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I agree with you on this one. I get the vibe a lot from my husband’s friends and family that because I married him, his daughter is now also my “daughter” in the sense that she is also my full responsibility equally as his. Of course she is if I take her somewhere or am alone with the kids, and don’t get me wrong - I help out with everything concerning her when she is with us and treat her the same as my own son. But when it comes to the big things, she has her own mom and she is her responsibility as well as my husband’s of course. I think you have the full right to want to make a savings account for your daughter. What they decide to do for their daughter is on them.