Some days I want to be a stay at home mom

Don't do it! Lol. Being a working Mom is the best example to our children, plus no relationship is ever guaranteed.

@Aly that is such a good point! I have a great career at a great company, but also, I feel most days I’m soooo over working lol. Maybe it’s just about pivoting my mindset to motivate myself

I get it. It sounds like SAHMs also can feel overworked so if it's universal that we are all exhausted, I'd rather be getting a paycheck and investing in my future than home 😂

I work from home full time but it affords me a LOT more time with my kids and I get fulfillment from work. For me, I enjoy work as it mentally stimulates me and I really love the challenges it brings. However, if I had a job I hated that also took me outside of my home I probably wouldn’t work anymore. I think working is great if it’s making sense for your mental health and financially but for some, they are able financially to not work and feel fulfillment from being a SAHM so I think it’s going to be dependent on each individual person.

I’m a SAHM and I definitely have my own identity. The key is to prioritize yourself as well, not just the children.

@Brittany THIS is what I need help in. I’m a SAHM & do not have an identity atm

@Brittany hey I’m a SAHM & wish I could contribute financially while being at home. What remote jobs have you come across?:)

@Alexandra the key for me is a supportive partner. When he isn’t working, I am able to go do things that make me happy. I think often times SAHM’s don’t get this because their partner doesn’t expect to be an equal partner when home.

I used to be a stay at home mom but I have been working for about 4 years now at the same job. Lately I been missing staying home with my 4 kids but I like having my own money. I might work less days again like I did before so I can be home more. Was thinking about doing a work from home job

I’m a SAHM with 3 babies. I would much rather be working. Hopefully when they get a little older.

I think it's so normal to think about how things could be or might have been. This partner or that one, this job or a different one, sahm or working mom. It's fine to daydream. The beauty of life is that there are so many possibilities and we only get to experience one. I've never heard it's best to wait, though, as the first 3-5 years are formative in terms of development. You just have less influence as your kids get older... In a family with kids, there is the house part, the kids part, and the money part. It's up to you and your partner to strike a balance that meets everyone's needs. I think it's nice for both partners to work as long as they also split the duties for the kids and house. It makes it easier to relate to each other. If there is imbalance in the partnership, it will be a problem no matter who has which duties.

Im lucky enough to have a part time work from home position and I live upstairs from my mom, I’m currently on leave, but my plan in to go down to my moms to work so they can help me with the baby and I’m still able to tend to him when he needs me.

Being able to stay home with my children is such a beautiful privilege. My husband provides financially & we have a budget. It’s our money. My kids are 4 & 14 months. I can’t fathom having someone else watch them full time/care for them other than me. I rather chase my kids than chase money. My focus is on my health, family & keeping a peaceful house. As they grow, priorities will shift. It’s just a season.