Unappreciated

I know this probs isn’t what you want to hear but honestly this would not bother me. men don’t recognize milestones or even holidays like women do. i’d be bothered if it was something like mother’s day but baby’s first month imo is like celebrating your first month dating and is kind of over the top

I’m sorry to say it, but I agree with @Anna I can promise my husband will not remember when our bubs turns a month old. Or if he does, wouldn’t wake up thinking about it. Maybe later in the day, if mentioned. And he adores us and is a great husband and father. They just.. don’t think about it like we do, as Anna said.

Interesting standpoint Well I’ve taken it personal considering all that’s happened to get to this point

They really don’t probably and I’ve been feeling so crazy lately

@Rose and I’m not saying you’re in the wrong for feeling excited and happy about your milestone! You’re completely valid in those feelings! Celebrate! Because it took a lot of emotions and steps and everything you went through to get there. Of course! Just more of a “hey, sometimes they don’t get it, men are some times just… apathetic to things that we want to be celebrated”

Yes I’m starting to notice that - I actually apologized to him and will remember that he may not feel what I feel about certain things

Yes men are like 10 steps behind missing half the puzzle pieces 😂🤦‍♀️ sorry to say. Celebrate this for you! I like to do “photoshoots” with babes each month to celebrate 🎉 It would be nice if our partners joined in our excitement for these things but they just dont usually feel the same type of attachment. Specially in the early days! Takes them a bit to bond! ❤️

I understand your feelings and I think it’s important to celebrate you and baby after going through infertility. However I don’t know how much you communicated that with your partner. He might not be the person to make a big deal about it but if you are and you want to celebrate you should express that to him because otherwise he may not see that it’s important. I think he should be happy and at least acknowledge it but he might not have even realized.

I had 6 years of infertility and my right ovary and fallopian tube removed after losing my first born in a miscarriage. My husband rushed home from his overnight job to celebrate and take our daughters 1 month photo yesterday . Not all men are apathetic ,but it also depends on your person to know your feelings and honestly he didn’t sound like he was thrilled . There’s always two sides …maybe he was reminiscing about the 4 year battle you went through and wasn’t ready to express it . You’ll never know

Not to misinterpret what I posted : He did acknowledge it and of course he’s happy - it’s our first daughter - it’s that I need to remind myself that because I feel one way doesn’t mean he or anyone else will feel the same I guess I expected him to feel what I felt but ultimately as women and the carriers of our babies we will definitely have different outlooks on these things They won’t ever get motherhood Update : he just needed me to not be so aggressive about the fact that I brought up that he didn’t say anything the moment he woke up Meanwhile (as a mom who breastfeeds) I’d been up for hours already We took pics too 😍 thanks for your inputs it was interesting to see so many different angles !

So glad for you honey!!