When to announce?

When are you all planning to tell your families? I’m currently 5w2d and planning to wait until after my first ultrasound (scheduled for 2/19, 8w3d) to tell my in-laws and most friends and 12 weeks to announce to extended family/on social media. The problem is my family. We’re close (and live near each other) - we’re supposed to get together this weekend for my sister’s birthday and I don’t know how to hide that I’m not drinking without having it be a dead giveaway. I’ve already had to dodge an invitation to a brewfest from my parents last weekend. The last time I had a positive, I told them that day because we were on a family vacation - it turned out to be a chemical so now there’s a part of me that wants to wait until the ultrasound. This time the pregnancy has been confirmed by my OBGYN, at least, but I’m not out of the danger zone so I’m still worried. Might be mildly superstitious of me too. Any advice?

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@Abi this is my current plan - I have a long history of sinus and ear infections so I think I’m going to use that. I’m just so torn on if I should just tell them or not.

@Abi that’s a great excuse!! I’d go with that!

Honestly you tell them when it feels right. I told my sisters & parents super early, at 5 weeks bc we happened to all be together for NYE and it seemed right. Had we not all been together, I possibly would've waited a little longer. Also told my best friend & coworker before my OBGYN visit. The way I see it, everyone I told, are the people that if something were to go wrong I'd lean on anyways. Just had my first ultrasound yesterday so we'll probably tell in-laws soon.

I told anyone straight away that I felt comfortable knowing if anything went wrong and whose support I would want. Didn’t feel fair not to tell them I was pregnant but tell them I’d had a loss.

I used the excuse recently of dry January, (a lot of people take a break from drinking after the holidays) which February is almost here so I plan on telling everyone for now that I’m basically extending dry January into February for my own mental health. I don’t have my first OB till February 24th so I will be over 10 weeks then and possible telling my family after that. I also had two chemical pregnancies before this, and being only 6 weeks now I am way too nervous to say anything. This will be my 4th and last baby, I normally waited till at least 13 weeks every pregnancy to tell my family since the miscarriage risk is low after that. My family is huge drinkers and I really thought everyone would question me not drinking with the first 3 but I definitely used the “I’m on antibiotics for uti” or “I’m so hung over from the night before, I just can’t today or I will puke” and no one seemed to think anything of it. The being hungover one worked like a charm for my family. You got this 💕

I plan on sharing after 13 weeks.

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