Did anyone feel this way before giving birth?
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@Tessa so sorry for your hard first experience! But this makes me feel a little less anxious about it. I’ve heard plenty of people say that you may not always feel the way you think you will. I just feel a little numb at the moment and it feels so sad as I want to feel so much more and hope I, like you have the same experience when my baby is here ❤️
I was like that with both of my babies. I loved them obviously when they were born but took me a few weeks I think to get that bond. The first weeks you are recovering from birth yourself and dealing with sleepless nights so its more just surviving at first. As their character develops it's the best feeling 🥰🥰
@Jess that’s really reassuring, thanks Jess! ❤️
Hope everything goes OK and embrace all of it because it flys past x
I hope you do too!! It’s hard having that perfect idea of how you’re supposed to feel but you never really know how it’ll be until it happens. I’ve made peace with not being able to have a bump connection but maybe I’ll be pleasantly surprised in the future 🤷♀️
I felt the same, even the picture of me holding him as soon as he was born breaks my heart now, nothing felt real and this baby was just placed on me I didn’t get the overwhelming joy you see on TikTok! But after we stayed up all night together at home and things calmed down I finally felt like he was mine and now I feel all the love for him. Give it time it’ll come, but tell your midwife or hv when they come if it doesn’t xx
I felt very similar with both of my births. In my first pregnancy I lost a twin pretty early on so I lived in constant fear that something would happen to the other baby. I had a rough pregnancy medically and I had a lot of stressful life changes going on that really wore on my mental health. I feel like with everything going on it messed with my connection. Once I had her it was an immediate love. I did still have some pp anxiety but nothing major. I thought for sure I’d connect with my second while she was still inside and I just didn’t. There was nothing out of the ordinary going on around me and I had a textbook pregnancy but I just didn’t not connect at all. I had the instant love again once she was born. Don’t beat yourself up over how you feel during pregnancy or even soon after birth. A lot of people don’t connect to their bump or take time to feel a love for their child after they’re born. It doesn’t make you a bad mom and it doesn’t mean you don’t or won’t love your child