Miscarriage

Nothing has really helped, just time. Hang in there mama 😢 I'm so sorry for your loss 💙

I’m so sorry for your loss. Miscarriage is so terrible traumatizing and hard. I personally found it hard to process and to navigate in general. I did however find a lot of peace in the statistics surrounding miscarriage. The odds of having two consecutive miscarriages is 2%, meaning that if you chose to try again there’s a 98% chance of success. I feel like it sucks how miscarriage is almost taboo to talk about. I opened up about it a lot after navigating it myself and was shocked at how many friends and family members then opened up and talked about their personal experiences going through it. Sending hugs xxx

I wrote a letter to my baby, we gave them a name, planted forget-me-nots but it’s taking each day as it comes. My husband and I came up with a traffic light system for talking about our feelings about it Red = can’t talk and can’t listen Orange = can’t talk but can listen Green = can talk and listen Let yourself grieve, don’t try and minimise the emotion or pain - you had a loss, the baby was real, it’s okay to feel angry, it’s okay to feel sad. Wishing you all the best.

Hi! Might seem intense but i have very small angel baby tatoo. I did it two weeks ago after my mmc at almost 11 weeks. This way i will never forget him/her even if life goes on without my baby in my arms.

I also ordered a miscarriage grief journal on amazon

For me, talking bluntly about it changed everything! I felt so alone and ashamed for something that was completely out of my hands. It made it very hard for me to accept and grieve. After my D&C I would just talk about it with my friends and family as normal, and it really helped me acknowledge the situation fully and allow myself to almost normalise what happened. It also surprisingly opened so many conversations with friends who had also had miscarriages in the past but had never spoke about it. We ended up creating our own little support group which never would have happened otherwise. I'm sorry you are going through this and whatever you do, please allow yourself to grieve and feel all the feelings. Stay strong.x

I am so sorry. It’s so devastating. ❤️ Everyone grieves differently. I have heard of many people doing something in remembrance , such as a tattoo or Christmas ornament, or jewelry with baby’s birthstone. I personally just drank wine, ate chocolate. Cried a lot. Listened to Bigger than the whole sky by Taylor Swift a ton and snuggled with my husband and dogs. I still cry over my baby girl every single time I think of her and my first pregnancy. I was just sad and I did have some supportive friends and husband who were aware, I didn’t really want to talk about it, but others might find comfort sharing your feelings with people close to you. A positive that came out of my miscarriage is when I did get pregnant again just having a different mind set and instead of complaining about pregnancy symptoms I was just so happy that my baby was healthy.

I had it in Feb 2023 and I still feel the pain in my heart. Talking to others and being open about it helped me a bit - but honestly it’s still very painful even after 2 years! Hoping that time will heal us!!

Mine was almost two years ago but it all still hurts. The statistics about how many pregnancies end in miscarriage are shocking but put things in perspective slightly. I'm hoping time will heal. It's the question about "only" having one child that really gets to me.

I had three miscarriages over a 2 year span, and while nothing really made it better when you’re in the throes of grief, keeping busy and enjoying little things in life helped until it was bearable. Finally having my baby truly made life bright and happy for me, but I still feel sad for my babies that I never got to hold.

Very sorry for your loss 😕 nothing really helped, but the midwife’s told me that there are high chances to get pregnant again very quick if we wanted to keep trying straight away, that helped me thinking a bit positive again. If you’re in the UK you can request a baby loss certificate: https://www.gov.uk/request-baby-loss-certificate xxx

Talking to God and seeking Him helped my husband and I through the miscarriage. I wanted to feel angry but I felt closer to God after it and He helped me through it ❤️ I pray you find peace soon, it’s a tough thing. I still cry about it and think about how that little baby would be here now. But I find comfort in the fact that one day I’ll know that little angel up above ❤️❤️

I’m so sorry for your loss! Talking about it is what helped me, I spoke to anyone and everyone and still do now about our angel who will never be forgotten. There is such a taboo around miscarriage and I wanted to break that. It helped me understand my own thoughts and grief. I have a bracelet with angel wings on which I wear and will likely get a small tattoo some day.

We were lucky and got pregnant again pretty quickly after our miscarriage. I felt like I needed something to mark the miscarriage. I couldn’t bear to get rid of the pregnancy test but also couldn’t look at it. Some may think it’s a bit odd but I had it made into a keepsake charm and I’m so glad I did!

Sorry you are going through this and sorry for your loss. I kept my pregnancy test as someone else has said above. I always light a candle every year on the date. I got pregnant with my daughter pretty quickly the same year and I think that helped. The best healer is time. It has taken me a long time to talk about it without crying. x