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Yep, I can relate to this soo much. Feel free to message me if you’d like someone to chat to.
It’s super hard!! Are you tracking BBT? As much as I hated it when people told me to relax, it is actually true 😅 I found when I let go of all the control (I was about to start IVF) that I got pregnant naturally. Could you try things like acupuncture?
It’s also worth keeping in mind that it can take up to 12 months for couples with no fertility issues!
After trying for over 11 years this is very relatable, it got to a point where we both accepted it was never going to happen and we both decided to focus on other things like joining a gym near us then suddenly we conceived naturally Our first pregnancy ended in a loss at 16 weeks in June 2024, conceived again for the second time with our rainbow baby around 5 months after currently nearly 16 weeks, after tracking my ovulation with Ovusense i highly recommend! Bit on the pricey side but so worth it to know if and when you ovulate
@amy if u don’t mind me asking how did it happen for you? We have tried it all, relaxing, not relaxing lol. I’m 38 in a couple of weeks and been trying for 2.5 years 😢 it’s soul crushing that it happens so easily for some and it’s seems impossible for others even when there are no issues.
There is a really good fertility podcast called don’t tell me to relax:)
@Amy ah I’m sorry I understand how hard it is. I really hope it will happen for you soon. We got pregnant after 1 cycle trying but had a miscarriage, I then had acupuncture for 4 months to try and help my anxiety following this. After it didn’t happen again for a while I sought fertility testing which showed issues on my husband’s side. He started taking Proceive supplements (as did I), and cut out hot baths and cut down sugar intake. A few months later, right before we were due to start IVF it happened for us. Ultimately I don’t know what helped, but I do truely think me relaxing did (I was putting so much pressure on it, and my anxiety was so high). My husband’s sperm health also improved a little so maybe that helped. Have you had any testing?
And even though I thought I wasn’t anxious, I actually probably was, it was only when the control was literally taken away from me (thinking I needed IVF) that I relaxed. That’s my theory anyway.
It’s a good theory in theory:) I’m so glad it happened for you! I still have hope and definitely need to try and ease the pressure I’m putting on it. Also having acupuncture, diet change and alllll the tests and scans 😵💫😵💫
TTC is one of the hardest processes ever, and it’s so un helpful when people tell you to just relax. What I would say is the moment you realise your whole life is revolving around it is the moment you have to start making life a priority. I’ve found planning future events , holidays or even simple dates, ensuring I don’t over test during the wait and I’d also say I ruled our fertility issues at the start so that I knew in time it would happen when my body was ready . Hope that helps x