Corporate girlie to trad wife?

I thought I’d want to be a SAHM but when I got the chance hated it. I get a good mix now being in school but I don’t think I’ll ever be a trad wife

I did at first but now I know I couldn’t do 100% SAHM. I love working part time. I get to live my girl boss fantasy then on Wednesday night I put on full mummy hat and savour every second of it

I love being taken care of by my husband and staying home. A dream for me.

I never want to go back to work honestly. I love being at home with my baby and we have such a good bond that I'm afraid I'll ruin it by going back to work. Unfortunately I'll have to go back though eventually.

Sooo I was a corporate girly for almost 10 years and have now been a SAHM for a little over a year. I will say that it has been a major shift and I definitely mourned my old life. I thought the change would be easy but it felt like my life was turned upside down. We’re finally in a good routine now but it took me a while to mentally and emotionally get to a place of acceptance and peace. I actually love it now. I couldn’t handle leaving my kid everyday.

I used to be boss girly now I’m a stay at home mum and honestly I find it so difficult I’m only 4 months in. I was made redundant whilst pregnant so don’t have a job to go back to I’m not sure what I’m gonna do but honestly I think going back to work would be good for my mental health 😭 I miss talking to people and learning new things and pushing myself to be better

The transition is very confrontational and a challenging adjustment, even when it is the life you want.

@Cerys aww bless you! I hope You’ve been able to make some friends on here? X

To those of you who have been the breadwinner in the relationship too, how have you managed the transition?

Id do it in a heartbeat if we could afford it haha but I make good money and it helps us have nice things for us and our babies 💞

@Steffani that’s the boat I’m in too, as I make more money haha. Such a dilemma

@Samantha I feel like once we pay some stuff off and refinance the mtg I might ditch my job haha but for now, I am sticking it out. Luckily I WFH 🤷‍♀️

No. I want a good balance between being a mom and being independent for whatever may come.

I would love to but actually I love having disposable income for holidays, shopping and eating out etc!

Same, Struggled to do good studies and found a great job in finance earning a lot of money and working a lot ! Had plenty of opportunities to evolve but met my hubby and very naturally we decided to have a baby very quickly. When he came, I never went back to work and quit ! He is now 11mo, I’m expecting 2nd baby and I think I will get back to work in maybe 2years minimum! I know I will need to get back to my career and accomplish myself, but my priorities have definitely changed, but that doesn’t mean I am forgetting myself ! Being a SAHM is also for me giving time for myself to heal my body as well, postpartum is until 3y after birth so it gives me time ! (I am lucky to have a helper at home and a very implicated husband)

I'm a house spouse, but I'd never be a trad wife

I had a full time job from 18 until 28. During that time I also put myself through two degrees, and was out of the hospital and working in corporate. (I hated it when I did work) and now I’ve been a stay at home mom for about and year and want nothing more than this for the rest of my life and thankfully I’ll never need to work another day in my life

It also depends a lot on the dynamic you have with your partner because there's some that believe that you being at home means them not doing anything other than provide. It can be very isolating and mentally draining but it can also be a beautiful experience. It all depends on how you live it. I know my 1st baby i stopped working and it was wonderful but now im on kid #3 and i think the longest I've been a sahm and i WANT a job so badly cuz sometimes i don't even have time to think or be alone

Yes but not forever. I quit my job already to focus on prepping our home and will stay home with baby for about 6months to a year and then work remote after that. My own schedule so I can flex to my current mood. I’m over the workaholic life. But I know I’ll get depressed and bored if I don’t have at least something bringing in money for just me and my hobbies.

I was a trad wife and it's not great but it's not that bad either...but I needed to Get Out The Damn House !! I worked part time and I love both sides of it. But being a trad wife isn't what it's cracked to be I'd rather be a nontraditional "trad wife" and my husband and household love it. So I say to this lifestyle whatever works for you and your household.. NEVER try to be like anyone else. Always just BE yourself and the rest will fall into place 😉

I think the key to being a happy trad wife is based off what your husband provides for you. I wouldn’t be happy either if I had no money to spend or time for myself but that’s not what my “trade wife” life is like. My husband pays for my nails hair eyelashes and anything else I want. He hires help around our house so I’m not slaving away all day and I have time for friends and Pilates.

I did this, gave up my career and regret it! Though I was fortunate to see every milestone and build a wonderful connection with my children. I became a shell of myself, lost my identity, I felt like I was 'just' a mom. But I think the dynamic of the household really shapes the experience you'll have. I often wonder if I returned to work would my marriage have survived. But I've seen a lot of women flourish in a SaHM role.

I haven’t had my baby yet but I’m thinking I want the same but not a full SAHM but more of a part time or full time remote job. Something with flexibility.

I went from being a constantly traveling, rock n roll website editor and model in my 20s to today I homeschooled my 3 year old, made bison chili and cornbread, and just washed both my kids with homemade breastmilk soap. The tradwife life totally took over lol

Since I got pregnant, same lol

@Samantha I was the bread winner and along with the transition from corporate girly to SAHM, we sold our house. It was the only way we could pay off all our debt and live on one income.