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Why do you not see yourself with him forever?
@Heather I think I'd rather that than regret not having another baby. I want to give my baby a sibling too as I know being an only child sucks. So stuck on what to do
@Ella he is emotionally unavailable for me and there have been repeated actions after saying he'll 'not do it again.' Especially if he has a night out (which is rare but they do happen) I am on edge as he has history of staying out all night and stop responding to my messages
How old are you?
@Jasmine 35. I know it's still possible to have a baby even in your 40s but I'm scared to take the risk in case it doesn't pan out and I end up full of regret
What if when y’all breakup he becomes the baby daddy from hell…?
@Jasmine this also crossed my mind and made me sway more towards having another with him so that my baby would at least have a sibling to be there for each other at times when I'm not there. He is a good dad though so I'd hope it wouldn't get bad
Has this feeling come more after having a baby? Or was this the case beforehand? Would you try counselling?
@Sally I think more after having our baby. I've mentioned counselling to him and couples therapy but he refuses to try. There were definitely red flags at the beginning but I gave him the benefit of the doubt
I have found our baby has had the biggest impact on our relationship, even after dealing with 3 ivf rounds and sick parents! I got given a book called “the fights you have after having a baby” as a joke present at Christmas but actually read it recently and it was really interesting! Also partly to see how this can be normal! I guess give it some time to see how the relationship goes and if it’s not working then time to move on as I’m sure your life may become harder with a second! Also if he’s not willing to at least try to make things better (eg no effort or counselling) then that imo would be biggest factor in staying or going. Don’t let age be the biggest factor. Good luck and hope any of my waffle was useful. Feel free to DM if you want to talk more! X
@Sally That is helpful ♥️ you must've had a tough time going through all that. I may have to get this book and have a read too. I will get in touch you seem a lovely person x
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