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Depends how ill they are really. Doesn’t matter where you go at the moment people are full of coughs and colds. And if you keep baby away from it all they’ll never build up their immune system, so once they start nursery or school they’ll just end up being up off sick all the time. I think since Covid we’re all way too over concerned about preventing our babies getting sick. I saw one person on here saying she wasn’t seeing her baby all day except for 1x 10 minute breast feed whilst she had Covid 🙈 to me they were doing more harm by not seeing their baby than what what Covid would do. Oh and baby definitely would’ve caught it in the 10 minutes anyway 🥴
My son was born during lockdown so made people take covid tests before meeting him when he was newborn. But have never stopped anyone since. He picks up more stuff at nursery than with family 😂
It depends on who and how sick they are. Sometimes it has been enough with asking them not to get close to the child and having good ventilation.
@Nevaeh that’s good they respected your boundaries !
@Coadie I understand that once they started school they can get sick all the time, but my little one just turned 4months. Still pretty small to get whooping cough and my in laws cough their lungs out while holding him.
@Sarah newborn understandable!!! A mild sniffle for adults is worst for them if they caught it
@𝔾𝕚𝕤𝕖𝕝𝕝𝕖 how can you tell if they’re not that sick? Because some people label their sickness as “allergies”? I feel so bad being so conscious about it.
You talk to them before they come, ask questions and have judgement. Do they have a fever, have they been vomiting, do they have a strange rash...? Allergies are not made up labels, allergies are real and not contagious. They cause a runny nose, sneezes, maybe a cough and can even lead to asthma attacks. Yet, they are not contagious. People with seasonal allergies got a lot of looks during COVID because the symptoms are similar to a cold. Yet... Not contagious. 👐
@𝔾𝕚𝕤𝕖𝕝𝕝𝕖 yes I know allergies are real thing of course! But some people will try to get away with it and visit then say “oh it’s just allergies “ when in fact they are not feeling well. It just frustrating that some people are so inconsiderate and will try to visit even though they’re aware that they are sick.
How do you know they are lying about their allergies?
Definitely do because if anything happens the person who will be in the hospital or doctor with your child is you. He comes first
Yeah, I'm happy my family hasn't been like the crazy stories I've heard from people And I understand building the immune system and stuff but I feel if a family member tries to come over when they're sick that it's just disrespectful
@𝔾𝕚𝕤𝕖𝕝𝕝𝕖 it definitely shows, them coughing with the sound of phlegm and continues after visiting. And prior to visit they just got fever and fatigue. Allergies don’t make you feel that way. Of course we only get family and friends to visit so we keep track if they are really sick and not just allergies
@Nevaeh this is what i’m trying to say as well, when people label their sickness as “Allergies “ when they know they are not well. Yes I get that too, we go at the park and get some exposure. But people visiting and holding the baby is way too close and if they are sick they can pass it on the baby immediately
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@Naijah I agree! Thank you! At least I know I’m not crazy for reminding them before visiting 😂
Like I said it depends how sick they are 🥰
Allergies can cause phlegm, an itchy throat and therefore a cough. That mucus from the runny nose caused by allergies accumulates in the back of the throat and create the phlegm. These symptoms are ongoing, so it disturbs their sleep. Yes, people with environmental allergies suffer from poor sleep and feel tired during the day because they haven't been able to get a chance to rest for weeks or months. Definitely allergies make you feel that way, speak to an allergist, not a GP. The person you are describing certainly sounds like they need to speak to an allergist to get their symptoms under control. If you are in the UK, there are almost no allergists available, the NHS does not fund effective treatments and expects you to live the way your relative is living.
Yeah, for whether or not I'd think they're lying would depend on who they are and if they are the type to lie about stuff, better to be safe than sorry especially with the younger ones
Untill my kid is the one getting everyone sick, I'm not willfully exposing them to anything
I don’t want to hang out with anyone that’s sick in general, my son just makes it even more of a case
We have a very strict no visiting policy when sick. Even when my partner or I am sick we still isolated from baby as much as possible. I work pediatrics where RSV/Flu is rampant right now and I've gotten sick twice since returning to work, yet my son (almost 5 months) has never been sick because I isolate & wear a mask while breastfeeding when sick.
@Nevaeh I agree!!! Just my people pleasing self feels bad sometimes for always reminding everytime they visit. But I’m a Mom now, so I can only protect and do what’s best for my baby.
@MK right?? I’ve seen so many videos about babies getting sick from adults that doesn’t care and they ended up being in the NICU. Poor little ones! Also my baby is a NICU baby that’s why I go crazy reminding people 😩😭
Absolutely, I work in the PICU and my one wish was to not spend any of my maternity leave at work (our PICU takes infants over 5 weeks for respiratory things, they don't go to our NICU after that). I spend way too much time taking care of sick littles to be nonchalant about it.
Yeah I get that, there's a few things I let slide that I hate that I let happen so I'm working on speaking up more for my kids
Most of my family and in-laws will cancel visiting if they’re sick anyway, we don’t ever have to ask
Update on this. Yesterday I mentioned to my in laws that if they are sick and they still have symptoms they have to reschedule. I told them in a nice way possible through a group chat. And the reason why I asked because they just came from overseas and they got sick a week ago. None of them responded and continued their visits. Lo and behold my MIL took it as an offense when she’s trying to grab my baby from me and I politely asked if she’s okay. She made a big drama and crying in front of the whole family, telling that she was offended and she wouldn’t come if she’s sick and was so excited to see her grandson but i ruined it for asking if she’s not sick! Of course, i stood up for myself and my husband backed me up too! It’s just annoying that why some people take everything as an attack when i’m just trying to be cautious for the sake of my own baby. You can never win to these MIL.
@Nevaeh same here! Being a Mom forces us to speak up for our kids
@MK my worst’s fear! 😭
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I think in general whether kids are involved or not, it should just be common sense not to go somewhere for a visit if you are sick. That’s just my opinion anyways 🤷🏼♀️
I have a 2 year old and 1 year old and if a family member is sick they aren't allowed over, no matter how old they are this will be a rule in my house lol It's their own problem if they don't like your rules for your kids