Am I being ungrateful? - Mother’s Day addition

I have 2 pretty young kids (2 & 15 months), so they have little to no understanding of Mother’s Day. A couple of weeks back, my partner asked me what I wanted for Mother’s Day, and I told him that I’d seen some pyjamas that I liked, and a cute vase. Both from Sainsburys. Less than £20 in total, so I felt like that was a reasonable ask. We were in Sainsbury’s today doing our food shop, and he was talking about how my gift hadn’t arrived yet. He then proceeded to ask me “why don’t you choose something from here” I mentioned that he’d asked me a couple of weeks back what I wanted for Mother’s Day, and I’d told him. He said “oh yeah well why don’t you get them now then” I felt a little bit of a gut punch, because why did you even bother asking me if there was something I’d like, if you were going to go rouge and order something totally different? And then when that didn’t work out, literally buy my own presents in front of me? He’s now (the evening before Mother’s Day) announced that he’s “just realised” that my card hasn’t showed up either. I just feel a bit under appreciated, because I put in so much effort on Father’s Day and any other occasion for him, but it never seems to be reciprocated.

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I would react the same way, just tell him what you're feeling. Some men are just not romantics or have really bad memory. I'm not sure how your husband is. But I'm sure if he loves you, he'd at least hear you out.

If this is the energy he contributes to Mother’s day, this will be the same energy for every other holiday. Have a talk with him about this, hopefully you’d be able to knock some sense into him and make him see it from your perspective.

He could have solved it by saying, Oh yes, of course, I’m sorry. I will get them for you right now, my love.

@Grayson I don’t think it does solve it. Her point is his lack of preparation into ensuring he has the things she asked for/making the day nice for her. Had he ordered the things she asked for today they will not arrive by tomorrow.

Men are useless at Mother’s Day honestly! I asked for a bottle of a gin so he did get it me but he’s not really made any effort he just said it’s a normal day 🙄

@Tshai 🇯🇲 it doesn’t solve it, but if someone makes a mistake and tries to fix it, you can forgive them. If they absolutely don’t care and don’t try to fix it, there’s nothing to forgive.

The more I read these posts the more I realise men are total shits. Honestly.

@Emily Good men are a rare commodity these days

I hit the wrong button ! I was in the exact position. I used to buy myself a present on Christmas so that I would have something under the tree. It was pathetic. He’s better now but it was awful so no you are not overreacting

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