My husband cheated on me and he was just telling me what he wants for his birthday. I’m still mad and don’t think I’ll get over it anytime soon . I don’t wanna celebrate his birthday .
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how soon has it been since he cheated if you don’t mind me asking. i don’t blame you for not wanting to celebrate his birthday, especially if it’s still very fresh.
He should be getting you a gift like wtf is he even talking about
House or not there’s a huge trust issue that will only get worse.
Mines cheated and I still took him on vacation only because it was already planned, I wouldn’t be petty and still celebrate his birthday but I won’t give him nothing not a kiss no affection at all turn up on his birthday, but remember don’t do NOTHING with him. Lol I will make it known you are single and not looking to be with someone who is a cheater, he has failed as a man to you, so you rise above it and show him you would still be loving and caring to the right man. if it’s him he would show you better and if it’s not he would continue to fail you.
So you’re only with him (after he betrayed your love and trust) because you’re constructing your home and refuse to not leave without some kind of equity? If you don’t want to be with him, you can leave and still find ways to not leave empty handed. 1. determine ownership and financial contributions (who’s name is on the land title, loan, and contract with the builder.). -If both spouses are on the loan and title, both have rights to the home and responsibility for payments. -If only one spouse is on the loan but marital funds were used, the other may still have a claim. 2. Decide Whether to Continue, Sell, or Buy Out -Sell the partially built home: The proceeds can be split based on contributions or a court decision. -One spouse continues the build: The other can be bought out, meaning they get paid for their share so they no longer have a claim. -Both continue funding the build: A legal agreement should outline responsibilities and how profits will be split after completion.
3. Get a legal agreement in place. -Defines each person’s financial responsibility moving forward. -Determines how the final equity will be divided. -Ensures that if one party stops paying, the other is compensated fairly. 4. Consider Mediation or Court If Disputes Arise I mean, you’re certainly not stuck. And if you can’t forgive him go. But don’t stay in the relationship and FOREVER be angry. Again, I’m not saying you can’t feeling upset and angry but CHOOSING to be with him means eventually, you have to let it go. You obviously don’t want to get a gift—so don’t. I’m sure he will be fine as he’s a grown asss man not an 8 year old. Plus, I’m sure he will understand why based on selfish choices he made. Good luck and I hope things work for you.
Fuck his birthday, build your house and start a exit plan FOR HIM!
Get him a gift. Be the perfect example of a faithful, and dutiful wife and starting get yourself together for the exit.
Hey Sis, your healing process is your healing process. I would say be honest with him in where you are. If you don’t want to get him a gift don’t. And let him know “This is where I am mentally because of what YOUR actions caused “
@Larayne it’s hard to look at him the same way . Little things piss me off . And I’ve just started not caring about what he does and doing me ! I can’t move on from this . I don’t think I’ve ever will
@Catt few days after Valentine’s Day .
Personally I wouldn’t be able to get my partner a gift if he cheated on me. I’d feel so sick to my stomach. It’s your choice but I also feel like it’s wild he even expects a gift from you. I’d be keeping the money to save up and leave tbh
@S. annalese agree with everythingggg you wrote.
You honestly will never look at him the same way, he took a trust that is needed to have a fulfilling and functional relationship and destroyed that. For me, it takes so much time & energy to build that & once that’s broken I can not rebuild that. Take the time to reflect & then I would be done. If you stay, that will be so draining because you will constantly be asking yourself if & when he’s going to do it again. You will become someone you aren’t. Going through phones, checking bank statements, wondering if where he says he’s going if that’s actually where he is. That’s exhausting & not to mention if you ever decided to trust him with your body & soul again in bed you will always be asking if you’re the one he’s thinking about or some other girl. It’s just not worth it to me no matter the time because he through that away already so why should you have to suffer?
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Well if you stay you get the house after it’s build? Or you staying for life😭? I’m not getting him nothing ! The man is cheating clearly doesn’t respect you as his woman or the mother of his kids🤦🏽♀️
@Larayne you’re right ! Everything you said is exactly how I feel .honestly sucks
@Lillian he’s so immature and Ik for a fact he’s gonna do it again. it hurts like shiit I love this man to death but I wanna heal . I’m slowly checking out. But it hard we have to communicate everyday. I felt it before but I just needed proof.It’s been a hard couple of weeks . I’m literally so disgusted by him .
@Lillian I’m staying because I get the house when it’s built.
Girl pick your new room and tell him to gift himself and touch himself. You’re roomies now 😂
This is just me, take it or don’t but personally if anyone cheated I would be out. I know it’s way easier said than done, especially in the process you’re in but I could never connect with him the same, touch him, especially sleep with him knowing what he has done. No therapy or time would make me change the way I would now look at him. There’s men that would rather hurt themselves than betray the women they vowed to. You deserve better, & usually but not always once they cheat once they likely do it again when the going gets tough . If he emotionally neglects & you don’t feel the satisfaction to be vulnerable to where you actually want to get intimate he isn’t the one. Oftentimes men want a wife not a marriage; they want kids but not to be a father.