What device can I set up in my home

What does he play on?

Was married to one. It will forever be the priority over everyone and everything. Time limits weren’t respected and I was postponing the inevitable. My advice honestly just leave everyone will be much happier. It’s easier to do it alone than alone while begging the other person to contribute

@Vanessa pc

@Chelsey Mirabel 1000%, I just need all my facts… as he is the care taker and I work 6-7 days a week as well as traveling for work! I just need an idea of how much it’s actually happening while I am gone since I’m home it’s obvious …

Do u have access to the pc? My husband had a problem with gaming at 1 point too but he played on his iPhone so I put a time limit per day. He gets exactly 1 minute a day 😂.

'Feit electric' brand cameras on Amazon. Just need wifi at home to set them up, then watch/listen on your phone!

We use Wyze camera for baby monitor. Access on your phone through WiFi and can hear audio.

Y'all this is too much. Either you trust him or you don't. Spying on your spouse is way past the line. Either he did what he was supposed to be doing and you went over the line, or you were right and you crossed the line. He's a grown up. If he's taking care of what he needs to and still games, whatever. If he's not, adress that, and rather than setting time limits on gaming, make sure you communicate so he knows how to contribute and what's expected, like a grown up. Why are you trying to control the minutia of his day when you're not even there? Hella red flag tbh. Hell it's a red flag even if it was a teen. Spying on people? Really? Do better yall

@Tagmayne 😂 definitely not over the line or a red flag when I’m the one providing! And obviously other attempts to reconcile the situation have been made.

You either respect him as an adult or you don't. And if you don't, then just break up with him. You don't get to be controling and abusive just because you're the one who provides. Imagine if the roles were reversed and it was something you liked that he was limiting. Like reading maybe, i don't know you. But if he was planting cameras to spy on you to see if you're reading when he was at work that'd be fucked up. And it's no less fucked up for you to do it to him.

@Tagmayne I would hope he would take a step to see why needs were not met and things being done if I was spending all day “reading” when there are children present. But thanks for your advice 😘

That's an entirely different question, that still does not excuse being controlling. If your kids are being neglected then don't leave them with him, break up with him and move on with life. spying on him will do nothing other than destroy any trust or decency was left between you. If you're so convinced he's trash just do the decent thing and leave. Better to just move on than try to manipulate and control someone who isn't doing what you want and trying to force them into a role they're not willing to take. How is this a difficult to understand concept for you? Like clearly there's some shame in your actions involved or you wouldn't be on incognito here, but like... Seriously? Your recourse is to have an adult conversation about it and if that doesn't work, start figuring out how life goes on without the dead weight. Being a woman does not absolve you of being controlling or abusive to you partner.

@Tagmayne after reading your profile it explains it all… “gamer”. 😂 It’s truly an addiction that I hope your child never has to experience!

God forbid anyone have a hobby. I don't blame your partner from gaming excessively when the alternative is dealing with you. You sound miserable, and I'd want to escape having to think about being stuck with you too. And my child will probably play lots of games over his life time, hopefully many with both me and his papa, because "gamer" does not mean irresponsible addict, and I'm not going to deny him what many many study's show often help increase his spacial reasoning, problem solving skill, and help maintain neuroplasticity later on in life. The fact that you think me being a gamer makes me an addict shows you should have played more games yourself. Maybe you'd know how to solve a problem instead of being an asshole on a high horse who acts like because someone plays videogames they're automatically a mindless addict, and use that fucked up mentality to excuse your abuses of them. I hope your partner finds out about your plans and leaves your ass first. He deserves better than you.

If the situation was reversed, and you found out he was using cameras to watch you and say you're not "doing what you should be doing" would you call this abusive and controlling? Yes. Being female doesn't absolve you from being an abuser or controlling. Being the provider also doesn't absolve you, it makes you WORSE because that means you're also in financial control.