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Holiday child arrangements

For those of you who have an arrangement in place where child/ children goes to their fathers for the weekend fortnightly: how does it work when they go for a week in the holidays? Do they still go and stay as usual the weekend after? Just wondering how it all works. Our 2yr old goes every second weekend and is just about to start 2 nights Friday and Saturday fortnightly. Currently on 1 overnight fortnightly. Aim is to build up to extended residential for holidays. I have proposed a long weekend end of June (4nights). I'm just wondering when we are up to that stage (going away for a week at a time) how it typically works for weekends when he starts going for a week in the holidays. I understand everyone's arrangements are different, I just wonder if anyone is in similar position where their child goes for the weekend fortnightly termtime I wonder what their arrangements are for holiday time Thanks in advance

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My mums partner has his kid every other weekend and then in the holidays where there’s two weeks he’ll have him for one whole week and in the six weeks he has him for 2 weeks and at Christmas it was meant to be alternate but he’ll have him from Boxing Day or 27th depending on the who’s Christmas is was till New Year’s Eve but they decided that it’s easier for his mum to keep him at Christmas and then he goes there on Boxing Day as he has him through till NYE or NYD if his son decides he want to stay another night but he’s also now 13

Thank you for sharing that @Paige . I guess my answer is to wait and see how our son copes with being away from me for 4 nights, I'd hate for him to feel like I had abandoned him. X

Yeah your boy is still so young so no rush really only great thing is it gives you that time to be you. My little girl is only 8 months and I told her dad until she’s around 18 months he ain’t having her overnight. She can’t be away from me for more than a minute at the moment.

@Paige we are going through court at the moment and I feel like my ex keeps pushing for more and more and I guess I was wondering what's typical at our sons age. Our son only started overnights last December when he was 21 months old. X

Just tell court that you want to work it up so that he can have him for a week overnight but gradually. So he can fully get use to having long stretches away from you. You’re his main caregiver so it’s going to be hard for you both.

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