High needs baby

How would you describe high needs baby? I'm only asking because I think I'm in the same boat and mind is also 7 months.

A high needs baby is more intense and demanding than typical babies. Common traits: Cries often and loudly Needs constant holding Wakes frequently Sensitive to noise, lights, changes Hard to soothe Feeds often or is picky They are healthy but need extra attention and patience.

Absolutely 💯 my little girl. You have my deepest sympathy, it is so hard isn't it. I'm struggling with this right now too and I'm hoping it will get better with age. I've been told that sometimes when they are difficult babies they are easier toddlers and once they can move around and verbalise their feelings they get easier...I do find with my little girl that she cries a LOT just our of pure frustration and boredom. So I'm hoping she gets better once she can do more with her body and can talk. But in the mean time, I am hardly coping. It's hard. The only advice I have is to give yourself a bluddy good pat on the back because this is hard. Remind yourself every day you are a superhero. And always be kind and loving with your LO, it's hard but it's not their fault, and they often just need some extra love. If you provide that love and reassurance, they'll grow into confident children, or so I've read.

For me, figuring out what makes her laugh and smile and using certain things to get her to turn her frown upside down. But that's easier said than done and requires intense effort. Lots of singing, dancing, stories. Sometimes I get a large muslin and drag it over her as she seems to love the sensation.

@Marina it's reassuring to know that I'm not the only one! Its so hard not to compare when all you see is happy and content babies! 😭 I've stopped taking him to baby classes because he doesn't enjoy them. Going for a coffee friends is difficult too because he doesn't like it when I sit down, he likes to be held and walked. He sometimes tolerates his pram and allows us to have a nice walk. Other times he'll cry 10 mins into the walk! Doesn't like the car seat either 😭 On the other hand, he loves lots of cuddles and finds our cat extremely funny 🤣

Everything you've said just there 100% describes my daughter. She doesn't like being in the pushchair most of the time, and it's a complete gamble as to whether she will winge the entire walk or tolerate it. She also hates going to baby groups, and oftentimes I get there, and I feel embarrassed because she's the only baby who's crying the whole time. She can't stand the car seat either and she cries the entire time that we're in the car, and as we take taxis it's a nightmare as the taxi drivers often get quite irritated because she cries so much. Sadly, unlike your son, she doesn't care for cuddles but needs to be held all the time. She does like animals, it seems, but we're not allowed any in our flat, which is a shame because I'd love to have a cat. Both for my sanity and to give her a friend.

Same here with everything. He's been like it since he was about 10 weeks tbh. I'm getting used to it now. I think what's helped me is not to expect it will change and just accept this is his personality so don't try and force things which I know will be difficult. I used to get frustrated like why won't you sit and play on your mat or why won't you sit in pushchair for a nice long walk but now I know he won't ever do that and I expect to have to walk him round the house a lot, showing him things, finding new objects to look at. Sensory play does help a lot - there are some good Instagram accounts for ideas and stuff online - stuff like giving them a shallow baking tray filled with water and some plastic balls (not small as risk of swallowing) to splash and play with, a basket with lots of different types of materials in for them to explore, jelly with toys set inside, stuff like what will keep him busy for 10 maybe 15 mins max if he's in a good mood. But toys I buy off Amazon he's bored of work thin 5 mins.

@Sofi thanks for your message! Will definitely have a go at sensory play at home. Please could you share the Instagram accounts ☺️