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I would be the same! I’m dreading when my kids start asking if they can go round someone else’s house ☹️
Why can’t you join her during the playdate? I always go chit chat with the other moms while they have their play date. Or at least know the family before letting my kid hang out with them or their family especially at their house
She doesn’t need to be there if you’re uncomfortable!! Listen to your mama instincts
is it an absolute no for you? or is it just like you need to get to know the parents before? would you be invited over as well?
How old is it? How long is the play date ? Can you go with her? My daughters aren’t going to anyone’s house without me or their dad.
Shes a very mature 7 year old....... It's something I never grew up doing and I've always avoided it. i have 3 other children so I feel cheeky saying can I come along too. But I hated it growing up I felt so excluded from friendship groups because everyone else did playdates and I was never allowed. It's a tough one😔
@Toni she's a switched on 7 year old, I just never let her out my sight beyond school.
@Kaitlyn yup and had my living situation been different id have invited the whole family over. I'll definitely have an open housey, it's hard to know who to trust.
Why are you so against it? I don't mind playdates, as you can't wrap your kids up in cotton wool
@sydney Its not a firm no, even getting to know someone means nothing because you never can assume what goes on behind closed doors🫣
@Ema I have the moms number to work out the formalities but I'm stalling because I'm so unsure. This is my feeling too but I keep questioning myself
Have you spoken to the parent much before?
My daughters 8 and goes by herself on play dates. That said by now I know the parents in passing. I did stay with her the first one but she was 5 then and preverbal. The biggest worry is that they’ll fall out or they’ll misbehave. It would be a shame for your daughter to miss out.
@Hashana in passing I've spoken to mom on school runs and dad I interact with often as he works out in the local community.
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I’d let her go. It’s just a play date, not a sleepover. Plus, if she’s 7, she can tell you if something inappropriate happened to her. I’m sure she will be okay.
I have a lot of trust issues so I still wouldn’t be allow my daughters out on a play date when I am not close to the family except I can go with it. Could you possibly arrange for childcare for your other kids and take her? Or maybe someone else could take her ?
"Hey X, my little one is very excited to have a playdate with your little one. This isn't something we have done before though. She's only 7 so I don't let her hang in anyone's home without my adult supervision. Do you mind if I come? I'd love to get to know you." If she minds then don't take your little one there.
At the end of the day the tighter the reins the harder they pull. Someone else's house has to happen at somepoint Like if we all think just have them round mine no one would stay at anyone's as one of the parents has to let their child go sleepover
Could u go and stay with her?
She’s 7. I’d let her go. We do lots of playdates their house my house, out. My sisters have taken him for full days before since he was 2. It’s probably too late to order one now but I have a cheap kids smart watch on the way home (I have one already for myself) for moments like this I can call him he can call me I can track him etc. without him using a phone. Because next year I’ll be picking him up from school from the school playground and not directly from classroom.
@Kellie I need to get my kids those watches!
Could you arrange to go for a coffee or to the park with the mum and little ones first so you can get to know each other first before she goes to her house? I think it’d be healthy to voice your concerns and that you haven’t done this before so that the other mum understands and can work with you. I always went on play dates as a kid and loved them a lot of those kids are still good friends of mine now in fact i’m a bridesmaid for one of them next week, they are precious times so I say get to know the mum first, a smart watch is a good idea too and you can pick her up from the house after a couple of hours?
Why don’t you ask to see if you can go with her & you feel uncomfortable leaving her or even if you do an hour & see how she gets on, I had this problem with my anxiety I mean it’s still not great but it’s help a little x
@Kellie it's never too late if I can get it on Amazon, what brand is the watch that you have, I started looking but I'm clueless.
https://www.amazon.com/BIGGERFIVE-Fitness-Tracker-Pedometer-Waterproof/dp/B0DC9NRKXN/ref=pd_aw_sim_hxwPM1_sspa_mw_detail_m_sccl_4/140-9303060-7940422?pd_rd_w=rNern&content-id=amzn1.sym.cccd34cc-7d3b-4cd6-8877-e5253b5eb4bc&pf_rd_p=cccd34cc-7d3b-4cd6-8877-e5253b5eb4bc&pf_rd_r=72VAVCMJAKZDGTD2K3YH&pd_rd_wg=JHlBY&pd_rd_r=8bf38dad-cb98-4bea-b3e5-90a898d4f8c8&pd_rd_i=B0DC9NRKXN&psc=1
I have this one for myself in white. Battery lasts me 1.5w https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DJK2DVYP/ref=sspa_mw_detail_0?ie=UTF8&psc=1&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9waG9uZV9kZXRhaWw
@Kellie thanks I've found it on UK site with next day delivery, does it need to be connected to a phone. How does your son call you on the way home?
The kids watch needs a SIM card in it that’s how it calls, bought separately. But both watches have its own separate app on the phone, and you control it that way. You can control both your watch and kids watch through your phone but they have a separate number due to the SIM card. He/she will have their own number. It already comes w a memory card
@Kellie thank you,
How old is your daughter and why do you not want to allow it?