in May 2025 Babies 🇺🇸

How do I tell my husband having a nursing chair or recliner is essential… please read the post for details

I’m 33 weeks pregnant and because of complications I might deliver at 34 or 37 weeks. We recently moved into a new house with no furniture and throughout the pregnancy I’ve struggled with back pain and pelvic pain. Just a month ago we stopped sleeping in an air mattress and got a very comfortable bed, however, the bed is a bit high and I struggle to get in it a bit. We can adjust it but even though I keep saying it’s high my husband makes no effort to adjust it lower. I will have a C-Section and it will definitely help to have it lower. We have no couches and the only seats we have right now are Costco plastic chairs which are really uncomfortable for me, I only use them to eat briefly or to receive guests. I recently asked him if we can please buy a $300 glider recliner to have in our room next to our baby station, all he said was “I don’t get paid until next week.” Not a yes or no, no reassurance whatsoever. Have in mind that we have savings and I might deliver this baby tomorrow. I feel that every time I ask for something he just cannot grasp the need of it because of the pregnancy, everything I ask I feel like it bothers him. I ask for the AC to be lowered and it’s a problem, I ask for chores to be done and it’s always a complain or it takes him forever to do it. Dr has recommended for me to do little to nothing around the house and it is very frustrating, because I feel like I have to do my regular stuff to not bother my husband. I don’t know how to make him understand the need of me having somewhere comfortable to be able to sit on after the C-Section and to sit with the baby while nursing. Specially with the bed not being at a comfortable height. Any advice will help, thank you. Photo of our bedside baby station so I don’t get lost.

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Girl go buy one you don’t have to explain what’s needed

And if he don’t care now he won’t care then

I’m with Riah 🤷🏼‍♀️ if you’ve contributed to that savings go buy what you need.

I didn't even read the entire post & can tell maybe it's the husband that's the actual problem lol acting like a child. It's okay to leave something that does not even care about you, your wellbeing (especially pregnant), & doesn't want to do anything for prep. As we speak my hubby is making homemade broth for me for postpartum, he installed the carseat today without me asking, & he made dinner for me & our toddler. Know your worth.

He makes sure we are fed and that the bills are paid, he is the bread winner and I’m SAHM. I’ve been feeling like the problem is that he bases everything money wise, and the thing is paying for everything is not enough, I need more emotional support and care. My major issue is that I have to ask for everything, I want the car seat out the box I have to ask for him to do it, I want a massage I have to ask. He will do it, but I hate to have to ASK for everything 😩

Girl everyone gotta eat with or without a man and I’m having a c section I deff made sure I had the money for a chair knowing I can’t do anything if you think just because he the bread winning or whatever and you can’t get what you need then you tripping

I kicked dude out because I felt like asking and getting back talk is stupid so I’ll do it alone I don’t have time to beg when they wasn’t begging to get me pregnant

Oh it is absolutely essential to have a comfortable chair to sit in, that was my big splurge with the first baby we had, I wanted a super comfortable chair, we got a nice lazy boy recliner. You need something besides the dang bed and plastic chairs

Get a oversized recliner!!!! Hands down so much better than any “nursing chairs”. We LIVED in ours with our first baby and I expect to with our second too. We used it for bed time up until my son was almost 2. It’s so worth it.

Get your recliner. Start a GoFund me if necessary.

@Liz it’s not they have a saving

What city r u in ? Try Facebook market looks of people give theirs away for free

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