Why second child ? 🤣

So that way when you are old and need taken care of your one child doesn’t have to bare that by themselves. They have a support in a sibling to deal with your death or to help take care of you

I've always wanted two. I'm one of 2 and my husband is also one of 2 kids

My husband and I want a second because he was an only child, and he was very lonely, even with lots of friends and activities. I'm the oldest for 2 also and as much as sometimes I hated my brother, I couldn't imagine life without him and how lonely I'd have felt. We also ideally want one boy and one girl, but no matter what, we want a second.

So they can have a buddy to grow up with.

I mainly want to give my little boy a sibling but honestly don’t think I could do it again I really struggle and still suffer from PPD and he’s almost 2 and a half. I just don’t want him to be an only child

I’ve always wanted multiple kids. I grew up with a big family I loved being able to hang out with the siblings and talk to them and grow up with them. It was always great

@Chantelle interesting thought 💭

@Stacey exact same reason here! I want to wait 3,5 years for another baby but I will be 38 years old …

I’m with u. I’m 1 and done.

@Vanessa it’s hard work and I miss my old life but I love my baby to bits

@Stacey please know it is okay to struggle with PPD for that long and it’s normal. I struggled with PPD with my first. PPR (rage) with my 2nd and PPA (Anxiety) with my 3rd. Being in a postpartum state is common and you aren’t alone. Please seek help any time it begins to be too much for you. You are a fantastic mom even if life is hard and being a mom is hard that in no way lessens your value or your love for your baby. Studies have shown that the postpartum length is 3 years before you start to feel like yourself again.

My husband lost both his parents. He wouldn’t have been able to handle it as well without his brother. They also both took turns with their dad living with them as his health declined.

I understand how that is. My daughter will b fine as an only child. She’ll b spoiled more. I grew up an only child and had everything I could possibly need or want.

@Chantelle sorry I don’t agree, you don’t raise a baby to then take care of you when your old. Also as an adult they need to know that one day we all die. I also believe that friends can become family like my best friend is my sister she would help me when the going gets tough

Im not saying you have a baby to take care of you. I didn’t explain myself well. I have 3 I told them to put me in a home and live there life. But I don’t want them to have any guilt if they are an only child feeling like they have to take care of me. If there are multiple I hope they remind each other that that’s what mom wants is for them to live their best life and not have to take care of me. We took care of my father in law and I was happy to do so but I also would never want my children to take care of me. I want them to know to lean on each other. You’re right people do die. And they will know that but losing both parents before 35 is not typical and very hard that’s why it’s great he had his brother. We have best friends for over 30 years still not the same as a sibling mourning their parent with you. I also don’t think you should have multiple children just to have them or so they have a friend or because a person thinks it’s cool to have a side kick or any other reason.

Raising kids is hard and if it’s too hard for you to have anymore. Then please don’t because we came on here given reasons why people have had more kids. I had multiple because I love children. And I enjoy seeing all of their happy faces and watching them grow and discover and learn. First steps to first relationships. I had more because it was a joy for me. Hope that explains my reasoning better incognito

my best friend is my soulmate. She would feel the same pain as a sibling if something happened

My daughter’s 6 will be 7 when her sister’s here. It was tough and I felt the same but I feel like I didn’t enjoy it as I should’ve. I put so much pressure on myself to be perfect I didn’t fully appreciate and enjoy my baby. Also she was such a fun baby and I missed it when she started school. We assumed we’d get pregnant straight away again but it took 3 years to fall again. I cannot wait to do it all over again as I know what to expect.