Tips for newborn and toddler?

Are you worried about how things will go with 2 ? Or that you'll be in the hospital and your 2 yr old will be away from you

Divide and conquer with your partner

Allow your toddler to 'help' as much as possible. I had 20 months between my two and my toddler felt a little left out so I would give her jobs to do or she would be on wipe duty when I would be changing a nappy etc. It made her feel involved. Also, I would allow them their own space. So as much as I would get her involved, I would equally offer her quiet time where she would play with her toys and I would leave her to it and if baby cried I would leave the room so she had some time to breathe and regulate herself again. It's not easy, but it's so worth the bond they will have! You will smash it! 🤩

@DC💙🩷💜 honestly both, I’ve never been away from my daughter besides when I worked overnight shifts at the ER but it was 5pm-3am so I’m worried about not being with her, but mostly just how things will go with 2 and that adjustment period, making it easy for her and juggling both

@Ellis thank you so much that’s really helpful, she’s also really into baby dolls right now herself so I was thinking of getting a little toddler baby career she could wear her doll in while I have baby or something like that. I just don’t want her to feel left out, she’s a huge mommy’s girl and since I’ve only ever worked over night shifts she’s never without me it’s always been that one on one time

I can relate to this very much! I was so worried to leave my 1st and 2nd while in the hospital but I just tried to remind myself they are with people who love them and it's only a day or two and we will all be back together. Plus I made my husband go home every night for bedtime routine. Maybe I got Lucky but adjustment was pretty smooth..my toddler did have a bit of jealousy but allowing them to help feed hold baby grab diapers, ect, really helped. You know the newborn stage they sleep a lot use that as a chance to have 1 on 1 time catch up on sleep and self care. Just remember be patient and kind to yourself it'll take about 6 weeks to get a good routine. You got this girl!!

can’t relate for a toddler, but our bonus child LOVES to help as much as he can, he likes to pick out baby’s outfits or will offer to grab dummies/nappies for us. sounds awful as well, but if they both need you, go to the toddler first. the toddler will remember, the baby won’t. i don’t mean ignore the baby & let them cry for half hour before anyone tries to twist it, i just mean see to your toddler first xx

@DC💙🩷💜 thank you so much for the advice this has helped so much! Bless you bless you 😙😙😙😙

@Bethany I totally get what you are saying and honestly that makes sense, thank you! I’ve had her “helping” with her dolls as practice and she’s loved it she is already so nurturing