Wake windows help - colic/reflux baby

First of all, ur doing great! You are there for her and clearly concerned. Do not feel pressure to educate at this early stage, your baby girl just needs her Mum... to see you, hear you, touch you and be loved by you. A newborn needs love, not tummy time (even my midwife called out "tummy time" as BS in the first month) Try not to feel so pressured.. and this is coming from another mum who is trying to run before she can walk! Also don't feel bad for not enjoying the newborn stage. Most don't... we just don't talk about it. I am not enjoying it and rather than put on a fake smile, I've been open and honest about how God damn hard it is, and my baby is a dream compared to most. It's the hardest gig we will ever have. Our bodies have been through severe trauma, hormones are all over and these little boss babies are something else. Be kind to yourself.... I never truly understood that phrase until my 3 week old came along. Inbox always open for u x

@Ashley you couldn’t have said this better!!!! Literally have nothing to add to Ashley’s words, but I can totally sympathise with everything you’ve said in your post.. I was crying in the GP 6 week review this week, and the GP said most feel like you, it’s just they aren’t honest! My baby also has reflux plus a milks allergy on top. I can completely sympathise. A little win from yesterday I went to my first group - rhyme time, and she stayed awake and happy for the whole thing. I was amazed! Getting out of the house done her wonders even though I was dreading it. But she proved me wrong big time!! Sending you so much love. Brighter times are sure to come! Even my partner wished time sway yesterday because this stage is HARD!!! Xxx

You are doing absolutely fab!! She's just a month old, attention span is definitely short to look at books and toys because they can only see figures at this stage hence not fully distracted. I felt so with my baby but I learnt to give it time. Colic can be stressing. But trust me it does get better. Mom's would administer infacol but for me I didn't I waited it out. All I did was soak a flannel in warm water and press gently around her belly button and abdomen, and there's relief, I repeat many times a day as often as I change her diapers. She's 7 weeks now and doing great. I understand newborn stage can be wrecking but hang in there and always remember baby is only reacting to the outside world and in couple of days or weeks she will have adjusted fully and happy. You are doing great mom, try not to stress out or feel pressured, baby wouldnt want to see you unhappy.

Completely agree with the above comments and I’m here feeling exactly the same! Have felt bad because I feel like my days run away between feeding my 6 week old, pumping milk, washing up/sterilising bottles and comforting her. There’s is no more hours in the day for her to spend doing tummy time or looking at toys/ cards. I’ve had friends comment on the fact I’m holding her too much- but that’s what she needs. Closeness and cuddles and warmth. Agree with the warm flannel on her tummy or even back. You can also pop it onto a heater for a bit without getting it wet. It’s worked for me, a few minutes of rubbing her back/belly over the cloth and bubbles release. You’re doing great!

You’re doing great as the others have said. Your baby needs comfort most at this time. You never get this time back and they grow up so so quickly. Spend it having lots of cuddles 🥰 kids all develop in their own time x

My boy doesn’t really like being put down either, I keep trying so to hopefully get him used to it one day but at the moment he just wants to feed all the time and sleep on me inbetween so I’m just letting him. As much as I’m desperate to get out and about I know I will one day, was the same with my twins. I’ve managed to Starbucks drive thru and to post a parcel (two separate trips) but that’s it other than a quick walk round the block with the pram xx

And echo what others have said, it’s so hard and you’re doing great 🤍