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If your husband was the main friend first I don’t see the issue. +1s are expensive and they’d have to feed you. It could be a budget issue 🤷🏻♀️
@Paige no he wasn’t the main friend first, we met them as a couple together, and are still that couple. Sorry if there was confusion, it’s a tricky one to explain
It could also be that they are trying to cut the guest list off and are excluding all the +1's? Some people include only guests that are married. Unless there was a lot of drama and you made a scene before, it is not justified to exclude you just because you and friend A don't get along. It could be that friend A has more influence than you guys on friend B. If you haven't seen friend B either since you distanced from friend A, friend B might be resentful and see you as the issue. Otherwise you would have made an effort to keep the connection with them. If all +1s were exluded, I wouldn't take it personal. If it was only you, it is rude and they are forcing your partner to choose. It pretty much depends on what you want to make out of this... You can let him go but he owes you one holiday, night out, spa day whatever. Or he doesn't attend to make a statement. Or he goes just for one hour and leaves early, incomplete invitation, incomplete presence.
I love weddings, so I'd be sad not to be invited mostly because of that. My partner got invited to a wedding by his old friends, and they were very honest that they couldn't afford some extra plus ones (me + a couple others). Once it got closer to the date and people had RSVPd, they found room and I was able to go. But no, even if close friends of my own for any reason didn't invite me to their wedding I'd be okay with that. My reasoning is that it's their wedding so they can do whatever makes them happiest 😊
If you cut contact with friend A but your partner didn’t and friends A and B are close, I can understand why they don’t want you at their wedding but do want your partner tbh. And if you’ve not seen friend B in ages, that also makes sense to me as to why you might not have made it on the guest list. We get married in Feb and we’re not giving some friends or even family _ +1 simply based on the fact we don’t like their partner or giving them a +1 would cause tension in the bridal party and they don’t have an issue with it. They understand and respect that it’s our day and we can invite whoever we want in order to make our day as happy as it can be without any chances of drama or bitterness
Was it a closed invitation? Or just a general invite sent to him?
It’s understandable. You cut ties with friend A whereas your husband didn’t. Friend A has been friends with friend B longer by the sound of things so they’d of course be invited over you. They probably don’t want drama or tension at their wedding which is fair enough. Your husband should definitely still attend and support his friends. I’d be happy to sit it out and understand why they didn’t invite me.
It's their wedding so they can invite whoever they want. Why would they invite you if they don't particularly like you?
It shouldn’t be about what you wish—it’s about the message he wants to send to his friend. Is your husband okay with the fact that you weren’t invited? In my case, my husband would have seen it as a sign of disrespect toward me and would have chosen not to attend himself—not because I asked, but because it would have been his decision.
This happened to me and my husband. I felt like it was disrespectful to my husband. I wouldn’t go to this man’s wedding even if I was invited. My husband felt it was rude to send an invite to my house and I’m not invited. It was also rude that he didn’t say anything ahead of us just opening the invitation from the mall. Of course declined to go to the wedding. They aren’t friends anymore. If I have a problem with someone, my husband has a problem with them too and vice versa.
I mean, obviously it's their wedding and they CAN do whatever they like, but yes, I think that's disrespectful. At that point, i just wouldn't invite the couple.
No. Because the way I see it these are more your husband's friends than yours. By default you excuse yourself from these interactions with friend B by disassociating with Friend A They also have the right to invite whoever they wish to attend the wedding. It's not disrespectful it's a matter of comfort for all. They'll be uncomfortable having you there just as you're very likely to be uncomfortable around ppl who really don't want you there.. Therefore all who were invited, were the ones the couple wanted there on their special day.
Budget issue potentially or space issue at the ceremony. At my cousins wedding partners that weren’t close family or friends were invited to the evening reception. Which I kind of understand now that I’m organising my own wedding. Im not inviting my cousins to my ceremony (15 of them!) I’m only inviting Aunties and Uncles of those cousins.
If it's your husband it's disrespectful. If it's someone you're dating then maybe its a matter of head count etc.
If friends A and friends B were friends before meeting you and your husband, and friends A are his old friends, and their issues surround you only… I get why they’d just invite their friend, your husband. It’s a bitchy move but it’s their wedding day and they likely want no drama.