When you here “we are trying to get pregnant “ what comes to your mind immediately… (May God bless the womb of anyone trying for a baby 💙💕.)

🤣im not trying to get pregnant but im hoping his bones like im trying to get pregnant 🤣🤣 my sex drive has been high since after my 4th

I assume people are struggling if they are stating they are trying. I assume they already been having a lot of sex 😂

Neither. My brain goes "oh they are trying to get pregnant" and that's about it

You shouldn’t feel like your sex drive is too high. He’s your husband, you quite literally should be able to have sex with him whenever and however much you please

@Anna that’s tough.Sometimes he is really tired , he works a lot , and his drive is generally lower and I just give him grace because he is able to provide everything and beyond, and still try to satisfy me and me him .it happens.

My husband works 7 days a week, 16 hours on the weekends, and I have low libido. Tell him to put in effort, I take libido and mood enhancing vitamins, and my husband still tries to get it in at least once a day. Even if he’s dead tired or he knows doing so will leave him with 4 hours of sleep before work. It’s absolutely worth it, and it’s absolutely a compromise on his part to do better. It should be enjoyable and healing for both parties

@Anna good for you , but I'm going to take it easy with mine , I don't need him on any pills,I'm not struggling in any way I'm just a “ brat” . I already know I could ask him to do more and he absolutely would do everything but that's not what I want him to worry about for the next few months. Later on maybe.

Whatever works. I never said what worked for me HAD to work for you. It was a generalized advice to your situation, on a post YOU posted. Sorry for offering my two cents 🤷🏾‍♀️also I’m not on pills. They’re gummies that I voluntarily purchased for my spouse

@Anna i understand,it's okay.

@Anna if a man wrote this about a woman it would be a completely different story right? No-one is entitled to sex with their partner just because they're your partner.

@Maddy if a man said this exact words , pheeew 😭.

@Maddy if a man wrote that they wanted to have sex with their wife… what exactly? Nobody is saying anything about forcing. I’m purely talking about the “I want to try for a second as an EXCUSE to have more sex with my husband”. The whole point is that you shouldn’t NEED an excuse to sleep with your spouse. I’m not really seeing how woke feminism applies here. Men and women alike shouldn’t have to feel like they need to use excuses to be intimate. And I’m saying this as someone with a very low libido who wouldn’t care if they had sex once a month. But okay ❤️ if the point went over your head that’s cool

@Anna you took what I wrote , a little too serious.(the excuse to try for a second ) That didn't mean I don't have a lot of sex , I just want more sometimes , and it is very normal for people to have different drives , both should compromise, if you have very high drive , you shouldn't always pressure your person, if it's too low , you should definitely try. I understand people are different. You can take vitamins and anything that helps to make it better, sex can be playful,it’s not life or death , so me and my husband definitely make bets and all kinds of excuses to have sex just for fun. You made it a little too much with the ,” you should have sex whenever you feel like it , blah blah , without considerationa”. Your husband working a lot and having a high libido is completely different from my situation,your advice was pretty useless, respectfully .

You’ve already addressed that you’re just being “bratty” I’m just responding to Maddy, I’m no longer directly talking to you or trying to call YOU out specifically. Now I’m wondering what this has to do with gender, since it was brought up. And anyways our situation is exactly the same, but in reverse. I brought it up because you mentioned that your husband works a lot. It’s totally fine if you don’t care. But there’s no reason to call it useless. Someone here might find the information useful, in that there’s options out there if they’re in the same boat ❤️ have a blessed day though

I refer to myself as brat .iykyk. His libido is not low , I'm just a brat.

@Anna if you think that saying a person should have autonomy over their own body and that continues when into a relationship is woke feminism, then cool, I'm a woke feminist. It may have been written in a way that didn't give the intended meaning but truthfully, what you wrote came across as kind of rapey and I was just inviting you to read back your first comment as if it was written by a male and see how it sounds. You can or not. Either way is fine.

@Maddy I’m confused. When did anything I stated here or previously denote a lack of Autonomy? 🤔 did I say anything about forcing someone to do something they didn’t want to do, did I mention lack of consent, did I mention asssault?? Or did you just assume that based off of your own interpretation of my comment

@Anna "you quite literally should be able to have sex with him whenever and however much you please"

@Anna like I said, it may of came across in a way you didn't intend.

@Maddy yeah that sounded a bit inconsiderate.

@Maddy I don’t find anything inconsiderate about my comment. I do firmly believe that two consenting spouses in a healthy marriage should have sex whenever they’d like to. If it was taken any way other than that then oopsies 🤷🏾‍♀️