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@Soph thank you. How do I do that? Any tips? I am literally crying here . It’s crazy. Spent the past years on my kids and hubby that I can’t even remember how to prioritise me
HAPPY BIRTHDAY BABE 💞🎉🎊🫶🏽
Do anything that makes you happy. Take a weekend away, message all your friends and arrange dates with them. Go get your nails done. Anything to make yourself feel good. Get hubby to be a dad and look after your little ones. Get yourself the thing you wanted for your birthday. Or take your kids out for birthday cake? But please, think about your marriage. It doesn’t sound good x
Sorry babe! Happy birthday! You deserve to be celebrated and seen ❤️ I’ve learned to appreciate myself and do something for myself. “Be a little selfish” while at it. Leave him with the LOs if you can and book a spa treat or anything to pamper yourself. And if you love a celebration like me, I’d organise a brunch or day off with friends I haven’t seen in a while. Sending lots of hugs ❤️🫂
Have you discussed this with him? You can tell him how important it is for you and it makes you feel appreciated. How is he with the kids' birthdays or other important events? Some people grew up in families where birthdays were not a big deal and didn't get celebrated.
Happy Birthday beautiful! I agree with the other ladies, treat yourself, sometimes we have to show up for ourselves to show others how to. Buy yourself a card, flowers, cupcake, whatever it is that will make you happy. Not today, but at some point, I’d have a conversation. If this is how he has operated in the past, it’s normal for him so have a conversation to shift the dynamic. If you always go above and beyond, it’s ok to pull back to create a better balance. You deserve all the special things to be celebrated and appreciated, remember that! God bless and I pray you appreciate and love yourself because you are a prize.
Happy birthday!!!🎂🎉🎊 I hope you can do something for you today that makes you feel pretty and happy💕
A man like that would never be my husband but happy birthday! You deserve to have gifts and feel appreciated
Maybe next year you can plan something with friends? If he feels like you don't want to spend your birthday with him, maybe he will reevaluate. Doesn't help this year, though you could always return the same energy for his birthday/father's day. Do you have kids? I'm sorry you're feeling undervalued. Treat yourself to something that makes you happy 💕
Make your day what you want it to be. Me and my single gfs invite each other a month in advance for a girls night, we go karaoke or bar w food or dinner then club, I’m going to Bali in July for a friends’ bday. Make the day what you want it to be without relying on anyone else. Book the massage, pedi facial hair nails whatever, go shopping have brunch w a friend go pamper yourself. Prance out tell him he’s looking after the kids and you spend the day kid free partner free and just enjoy your own company. I even make a Happy Bday to me post on IG 😂 anyone who wanna comment can comment 💁🏻♀️
Happy birthday beautiful!!!! Please take yourself out and make the most of the day! (cry if you need to) but please smile afterwards sending you lots of love 🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵
If you haven’t talked to him about this, you need to! If you have spoken with him and nothing has changed, it’s time to create your own birthday celebration with yourself and/or friends and go treat yourself to a massage, nice dinner, you obviously can’t rely on your husband and tell him from now on you will celebrate you.
Happy birthday!! I was in a relationship like this and I am so sorry. It hurts. All I will say is you are totally worthy of being loved the way that feels whole and right to you. Don’t settle and don’t let that resentment build. As others have said, communicate with him about this need and if it doesn’t change anything, it maybe time for some hard, but needed examination of your relationship. ❤️❤️ You got this mama.
Happy birthday! My husband didn’t do anything for my birthday one year. At the end of the day I sat him down and said in future I would like him to make the effort to celebrate my birthday- even if he can’t afford a gift he could make dinner for us, make a card out of a random scrap of paper or buy me a chocolate bar just to make a point that it is my birthday. I was crying by the end of the conversation and he felt terrible and has never done it since. You need to tell your husband the truth, how you feel and what you want him to do differently next year
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Firstly, happy birthday hun! I will also turn 36 but not until May 31st. Honestly I think it was awesome being born in '89 because we remember most of our childhood in the 90s and the 2000s was such a fun time to be a teenager! Secondly, I'm so sorry that your husband is treating you this way. 😞 Does he always treat you this way? Or is he just bad at remembering special occasions and being thoughtful with them?
HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🤍🎉
@Breaha he is horrible at remembering birthdays , anniversaries and events. I remind him but even when he remembers, he is lazy with putting in efforts . He does same with the kids birthdays. The thing with May kids is that we don’t forget when someone is nice to us and when they are not lol
Is he at least otherwise a good husband and father in most regards and just struggles in this one area? If so, is he willing to put in effort to doing better about this? Or is he overall just a very selfish husband and father? I mean, I think anyone regardless of when they were born is going to remember who is nice to them and who isn't.
Please go online and order yourself something nice right now. (I'd make it expensive since he forgot). Then, put reminders in your husband's phone calendar, of your actual birthday, anniversary, and whatever else you need him to "remember" and add a 2 week reminder to help prompt him to get a gift. It's not you. Heaps of men are very bad at this exact thing with all people in their life and many do better with some help from technology. I say Happy Birthday to you, Inconito, this year and all future years! 🎊🎆🎊
Happy Birthday!! Cheers to u and hugs !!❤️❤️❤️❤️
@Breaha he is a great dad to the kids, helps with chores around the house and provides too . The main issue is that he is selfish when it comes to putting efforts for special events like birthdays, anniversaries etc. we have never celebrated an anniversary and I am big on celebrating and being thoughtful. It’s actually important to me that he remembers but I am certain he might repeat same thing next year because it’s been like this in 5years. Just that it’s not been as bad as forgetting totally. Literally spoilt my day as it’s too late to make any plans for myself
@Sera Kay ✨ thank you . Means a lot xx
@Soph weekend away sounds good. I will consider doing that . Birthdays are just very special to me. Always has been but probably it’s my fault expecting anything from someone else
@Hilda thanks so much . I feel better . I will be kind to myself xx
@Sam what if you got married and he starts to further special events or just do not put in effort . What would you do x
@𝔾𝕚𝕤𝕖𝕝𝕝𝕖 he is same with the kids, no celebrations just that atleast he remembers theirs . Yes, from conversations, he grew in a family that was not big on birthdays but i believe it should not be an excuse though especially as it has happened repeatedly over time xx
@Quana never thought about buying myself a card although I always make sure I get myself a birthday gift. I stopped giving gifts too after I noticed he hardly reciprocates. I will work towards better celebrations for me xx
@Ricqel feels too later but I will do something over the weekend . I hope it gives me some satisfaction xx
@Anna👼👶👼👼 we have three kids, the last being 2months . I definitely would do something next year , I made the mistake of putting my hopes high
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Ok. I gotcha. I was going to see if he's overall a horrible husband and father you should consider divorce but if in most aspects he is a good husband and father then that changes it. Still, I completely understand what you mean because while my husband at least tries to be thoughtful for my birthday and the birthdays of our daughters, he seriously does not give a s*** about 4th of July, Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas even though he knows they are extremely important to me. Heck, our 2nd daughter was born on December 20th in 2023 and he wants to combine her birthday and Christmas presents and celebration together! 😡 He thinks it's ridiculous to spend extra money on birthday presents and a birthday celebration for her when her birthday is so close to Christmas. I told him that's extremely unfair to her and eventually she will ask why her sister gets her own birthday celebration and presents and she doesn't. I know a small part of it is because he is from India so he doesn't have a reason to care
about most American holidays but he barely even gets a s*** about his own country's holidays and he has said so himself so I know it's mostly a him thing. He has honestly ruined holidays the past 2 years with his attitude about them. But our older daughter is getting old enough (she turned 2 on February 16th) that celebrating holidays and going all out for them will matter a lot more so I refuse to allow him to keep ruining holidays with his attitude about them.
Well he just sounds like he’s not arsed to be honest how difficult is it to celebrate your wife’s birthday and make her feel special
The happiest of birthdays to you, you deserve to be celebrated, loved and appreciated. Perhaps the time has come to reassess your relationship and prioritise yourself