Mother’s Day gift

What? You actually have a husband who may not have gotten exactly what you would've envisioned but made an effort to make you feel special when lots of people weren't even gifted anything let alone wished a Happy Mothers Day or acknowledged or celebrated. There's really no winning with some people is there😐

I totally get that. You don't need the reminder that you're a mom - the kid is proof of that - and I don't know if you're the same, but i prefer more practical gifts. I don't think it's ungrateful to not love a gift, and I don't think you need to just be grateful he got you something at all. I think you could tell him that it's a nice gift but not really your cup of tea, and I don't feel like that would be rude or unappreciative.

He got you a gift?! Wow! Not the best gift, sure. But at least he got you something. He has room to level up for next year.

I think 90% of mums on this app got nothing. Nada. The fact that he got both you and his mum means a lot to many mums who got, nada. No effort at all from their partners. He tried 💁🏻‍♀️ next year if you know you want something specific, something else, maybe hint and let him know.

Honestly I would put it wherever y’all watch tv because it’s a movie star situation lol! I understand not particularly liking that type of stuff but maybe he thought it was a cute idea and that’s why he also got his mom one. Not that he didn’t wanna try. I’ve certainly been given stuff I didn’t relate to but it’s the fact the gift was even given that I appreciated. I know you aren’t trying to be ungrateful and I also know you are human and have a right to feel the way you do no matter what anyone else has got or didn’t get. Someone at some point has been disappointed in a gift they have received. Anyways I think next time maybe share some thoughts and ideas of what you prefer! Tell him you want your day to be more special to YOU specifically!

I wouldn’t be happy about it either. I really hate it when I get generic gifts. I know people say you should be grateful for any sort of gift, but no. The thing is, not everyone is good at gifts. I grew up asking what gift would be best. I don’t want to waste money on something the person isnt going to use. Im sorry that your husband isnt great at giving gifts. Maybe make a list of things you would like? I know it takes the surprise out of it, but you’ll actually like it.

I’d put it in the tv room… but honestly I’d be upset that he got his mom the same thing 😭.

It would be a sweet gift from a child but not really from the person who you’d expect to know you better than anyone else on the planet. Idk it just seems like a lack of effort imo but idk him so

I hear you completely…sometimes it feels like the men are just lazy…and not that creative. I’ll be transparent, if I didn’t tell my husband it would be nice to get a gift and send him links of options, he probably wouldn’t have gotten me anything even though we’ve been married for 4 years and I told him my love languages and that I like sentimental things. Furthermore, he got 2 of the most basic things i sent..but the biggest thing I’ve learned it to show gratitude in all things, but be honest and communicate and respectfully and lovingly let him know how you feel. Last thing, I saw this on IG. Maybe you two consider a wishlist on Amazon of things to get on such holidays and invite each other so they have options to choose from. Just make sure to update the list so you like everything on the list. I hope you find this helpful. Stay blessed beautiful 💝

Your feelings are completely valid. And it does take away from the genuineness that he got the same thing for his mom like what lol And if he truly knows you then he would’ve put more thought into getting/doing something that YOU like. I’m not here for the toxic positivity of invalidating your feelings & then telling you you should just be grateful. That’s not being supportive or holding space for authentic feelings.

Lol I'm sorry to laugh but this is funny because I can definitely see how he *thought* he was doing something customized and sweet by getting your name on it...But some men are just not that good at gifts. My husband got me flowers and the strawberries but I guess was stressed about failing so he got like 4 sets and then I was mad because they're gonna die and we left on a trip the next day?! Try to let this slide, hopefully he's a good guy in other ways. Also, I'm actively trying to talk to my boys and teach them how to give gifts...it's a hard thing to teach but we are working on it like trying to think about whether the item itself is something they would like, whether it is the right time and place to give a gift, and how to present a gift so that the recipient feels special...it's not easy!

Raise the bar women, you don’t have to be grateful for a “anything”

Just because others got nothing doesn’t give them the right to shame you. You can be grateful and still not like something.

It is definitely tatt that's just going to end up lying around the house or in the back of a cupboard as an unnecessary keepsake, but the thought was definitely there! A lot of people aren't great at buying gifts 😂 Maybe communicate it with him and reinforce the fact that you really appreciate the gift and don't mean to sound ungrateful, but it's just not your style?

I thought it was sweet right up until you said he got his mum the same thing and then decided hell no, it’s not thoughtful of you order in bulk