Anyone able to help give advice or ease my mind😭

Firstly, you've made it to the second trimester. That's very big as miscarriage chances drop significantly after that. Your symptoms are normal to have eased, it's exactly what's supposed to happen. Second trimester is supposed to be the easiest of the 3. I understand your worries, I've had a miscarriage before and I carry that feeling with me. I try to tell myself that I do the best I can every day to have a healthy pregnancy, and it's up to the baby now. There's only so much we can control in life and stress doesn't help.... another thing that might help is you can buy one of those machines for home where you can check the baby's heartbeat whenever you want (i don't know how well they work and if they're worth it , maybe other women who have used them can tell us)

@Marlene thank you so much for this!! It’s such a struggle isn’t it but I do keep reminding myself I’ve made it this far and like you said the chances have dropped so it is upto the baby now and I do need to relax 😂it’s just hard fighting with my anxiety I think it’s cos we’re in that weird stage where we can’t feel them yet but we’re starting to get bumps etc? I’ll deffo have a nose into one of those machines! I originally didn’t want to buy one but I deffo feel like it’ll help thank you so much for this I really needed to hear this today❤️

I totally get it. I've had my last scan at 13 weeks, almost 3 weeks ago, and i have the 16 week appointment next week with the midwife. I can't remember if that includes a scan or not. If it doesn't, I keep thinking then what? I keep having all these hospital appointments but noone checks on the baby! I don't know what's going on in there! How can they be so confident! If I could I'd drop by the hospital everyday before work for a casual scan but I don't think they'd let me😅

@Marlene ahh see I was told for my 16 week scan (I think I’ll be 16 and a half) they do a Doppler thing to hear heartbeat? But idk if it’s different im on a consultant led pathway, but I completely get that! It’s like how can they know they’re ok😂😂it’s hard isn’t it, I think once I can feel them move I’ll be fine I think like i definitely do need to manage my anxiety but I find it hard to just know they’re ok😂xxxx

Oh i never heard of the doppler thing...interesting. well I think if you really have anxiety over it it's worth giving a call to your midwife team or whatever number your hospital gave you. There might be something you can do to ease your stress that we don't even know about. I know that in my hospital the EPU welcomes women for a scan just because they're feeling anxious. Don't be too harsh on yourself and try to find all the ways you can make this a better experience for you! Although, I think also when they get bigger and you can feel them more it will be better. Just for the next few weeks until then

@Marlene me too! I’m not sure if it’s just cos of the pathway I’m on or if it’s a normal thing that happens at 16 weeks, I’ve tried ringing my midwife and she says it’s all very normal due to the losses I’ve suffered and I did go in at 13 weeks and have a scan through the emergency department due to my anxiety but they were quite rude and told me I need to manage my anxiety (which they’re right but still hahaha) I won’t and that’s it when they’re bigger we can feel them and won’t need to worry as much I suppose it’s just a weird feeling I have x

Oh no, it's so awful when they're rude... I understand that to them we are one of hundreds of women they see in a week but i also feel some of them should have more empathy... I went to see them after I was bleeding a tiny bit one day and they almost refused me a scan because they said "I'm pregnant and bleeding, so what? It's normal". So even if they're right, it's a weird journey and some compassion would be nice! Well what works for me is just generally to have faith. It keeps me calm because I keep telling myself "things will turn out how they're supposed to be". Which sounds stupid but like I said earlier I can only control what I can control, everything else is up to the universe. All we can do is have faith everything will be fine

@Marlene exactly like I also get that but it’s also like have a bit of empathy we’re nervous and anxious and want everything to be ok! Wow that’s shocking I’m a bit exhausted how everything is deemed normal in pregnancy tho when to you it doesn’t feel normal! I had that scan by them when I had weird aches and pains in my legs and tummy and they went it’s normal it’s growing pains and it’s like it doesn’t feel normal tho😂and yeah that’s it a bit of compassion goes a long way I think! And that’s it you’re so right like I need to say the same to myself I can only control what I can control and everything else is down to the universe I love that!! Thank you so much for all your advice I hope you have a lovely rest of your pregnancy and safe birth!! You’ve really made my day❤️

My experience so far has been that nothing is "normal" about this experience....despite the joy of it and what's coming, it's a scary rollerocaster of a journey. The pains, the discomfort, the fact that a human is a growing inside you, the fact that the men who have helped us make this human will never really understand what it feels like, the uncertainty, the unknown...it's A LOT. Anxiety is so normal, be kind to yourself ❤️ and try to enjoy each part of the journey. I'm here whenever you want to talk! I wish everything goes perfectly in your pregnancy, as I'm sure it will!! 🫶

@Marlene definitely agree!! It is a lot definitely, thank you!! I’ll shoot you a message soon🥹thank you so much and you too! I bet you they’re in there chilling away and we’re here panicking 😂❤️