Consultant appointment was just so bad

Eugh reading this really frustrated me for you. Pls don’t let them kill your joy, with the greatest respect to doctors you need to take what they say with a pinch of salt. I follow theheavyweightmidwife on IG she has a lot of reassuring advice if you need to hear advice from someone less judgmental xx

At the time of me giving birth I was 22st. Not ONCE did my midwife or consultant ever speak to me in such a manner! Personally I’d of lost it! Do not let them kill your joy about anything. I was induced due to preeclampsia and had a very calm and chill birth. Just because they say once thing doesn’t mean it will happen. At the end of the day it is your body and your pregnancy, every decision is down to you! I went without an epidural but I never wanted one in the first place and opted for the diamorphine instead. You got this mama don’t let them take your excitement away xxx

ASK FOR A NEW CONSULTANT!!!! sorry what the actual fuxk! Regardless if your are size 4 for 24 you do not deserve to be spoken to in that manner.

I agree with Hayley! Get a new consultant like asap! Pregnancy is already challenging enough, you don't need some ignorant person to be adding onto it.

Take a look at fatpositivefertility and theheavyweightmidwife on instagram. Loads of positivity and support, the research shows that although we plus sizers are at higher risk - that risk is just a smidge more than anyone else, but some health professionals like to make us feel bad about it and blame everything on our weight. I had an emergency c section, I was driving after 9 days, and had a great recovery. Plus size can have good and bad experiences and complications, just like the rest of the population. Can you move consultants? There are plenty who will support you rather than make you feel like this one did today. I would honestly look at your options and talk to your midwife. You are doing great, this community is very supportive and there are lots of stories and advice available right here xx

Unacceptable, I’m having my second now. First birth 41+4 absolutely perfect no excessive bleeding no intervention needed. This time I’m 40+2 so far and still going strong. Ask for a new doctor if you can x

I had this with the consultant, I left crying after he was so rude to me. When I said I planned to go ax natural as possible, he said then why are you hear? I left. I went naturally, no interventions, I had a tear but I was fine. My midwife was amazing, when it was pushed for induction or a section she supported my decline. Sadly the higher ranks can be arse! If you have the supported team around you that helps. Report them and ask to be moved to someone else. I follow lots of birth rights on TikTok so I was able to support and have cone backs when they were almost forcing a section on me, a section they said they’d struggle to get the needle in! I’m sorry they have made you feel this way! Message me and I’ll send you the instagram pages who helped me and gave me the kick up the arse to stand up for myself and choose what I want…….. my body my choice xx

Definitely report him or write a review, this will help other women know not to see this particular doctor who seems to not have any compassion or respect for patients. This is another reason I tend to stay away from male doctors, I have not had many great experiences with them unfortunately. Everyone is different and many have given birth at all sizes and weight, hope you find the right doctor for you and this pregnancy. 🩷