Community Posts, Tips & Support on Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy
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What’s your view of parenting?
Parenting is hard but can be fun and so rewarding. What do you think?
So excited and nervous
3 weeks and 1 day until egg retrieval (if everything goes to plan). Will be a 5 day fresh transfer which falls on my Mam's birthday! I feel like this is a good sign 🤞🏻 it's my first round but I'm staying super positive about it ✨
Race
Not a racist post I just need clarification. My husband is Mexican and I’m Jamaican. On forms he put Hispanic and then white. For me it’s none Hispanic and black. In this case what would I put for our daughter. I usually put Hispanic and black. But honestly she doesn’t look like she has an ounce of black in her. ...
What do you tell people?
I find that as I am pregnant, people assume there’s a father (there’s a biological one, but he’s not involved at all - it was complicated). After much deliberation at the beginning, when I went public with my pregnancy I decided to set some boundaries and tell people ‘the fathers not involved, and that’s all I’m g...
Egg collection cycle day
Which cycle day did your egg collection fall on. I know CD14 is ideal but I think that will be on a Saturday for me and they don’t do collections on a weekend. I’m trying to work out if they’ll be likely to do it on CD13 or delay until CD16
First FET 2/11/25
Anyone else transferring on 2/11 or around that time?
My partner wants another baby to be a brother for our first kid
My partner wants another kid. I just gave birth December 8th, 2024. I want to focus on him. If I have one more child , I don't want to risk neglecting my first one. J get overwhelmed easily from screaming and crying. Also, it was scary being pregnant I had to be induced and cut open s the end. I had an epidural whic...
Were you raised by both parents?
Just wondering if anyone else was raised by foster parents or adopted parents.
Has toddler stayed a night without you?
For NYE my husband wants to take me out and let his parents look after my little one. She's very close to grandparents and they look after her really well. However, I've never spent a night without her. She's 2.5 years old now so I feel like it's ok but I'm anxious. How was your experience and how was little one?
Restricting visitation
Do you think any parent (male/female) has a right to restrict visitation if the one parent doesn’t pay child support?
PARENTING!
Is it better to be a strict parent to instill discipline, or should parents focus more on being understanding and supportive to nurture their children's emotional well-being?" What do you think about this topic?
Who is finding being a parent way harder than originally thought?
I love my baby and would do anything for him but jheeeez im finding motherhood really tough. Im not sure the baby stage is for me 🥺 I worry about everything when it comes to his health, his general anatomy, head shape, feeding, that kid of thing, and question what is normal all the time.
I think the word “ spoilt “ is thrown around to brazenly when describing kids.
For example I feel as though people are quick to label a child “spoilt” just because their parents can / do buy them expensive / nice / a lot of things , that child could be immensely grateful but is labed spoilt over material things
Dictating how I raise my kids.
Not my MIL but my adoptive parents. I’m 21 years old. My age is the reason I think this is happening. Context. I was doing fine until I moved in with my parents. They offered me to stay in one of their homes as they have many and I said yes. I was doing fine on my own with my little family and they convinced me to m...
How does registering my baby without a father work?
Me and my baby daddy no longer speak, my baby is 2 weeks old and I’d like to get him registered however I was told that the father needed to be there if we’re not married. Is there anyway this can happen without him?
The Morals of a Parent
Can you trust a MAN or WOMAN who does not take care of their child(ren) Examples include: -Allowing the primary caregiver to raise the child but NOT sending financial support or spending at least 20% ( of the week) around the child doing parenting duty's -face time children or calling, . Keeping promises to child...
No FAMILY At Christmas Time
This time of year can hit really hard. I have no family. My husbands parents have been passed for a while. I never had a dad growing up and my mum lives far away and I’m not really in contact with her. So we have no where to go and no one to host at Christmas time. This was the same growing up as a kid. I hate it an...
Have you yet brought your baby somewhere where there is someone you don’t really like ?
Like someone you dread even holding your baby. I’m trying to think if I’m ready but I’m literally so protective abt my baby right now
Gentle parenting
Were you gentle parented, and do you gentle parent?
What is the right way to teach this?
A kid on the playground was pushing my son. My son came over and told me “a black kid was pushing him.” It felt wrong that my son was using only the kids race to identify him. I wouldn’t like someone to identify me just by my race or approach a problem where I was described by my skin tone first. Am I wrong for thin...
