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Is anyone absolutely terrified of having a second child? I have one baby and she is almost 15 months old and her daddy and I want her to be an only child like me and the thought of another child taking her attention away terrifies me. How did you get over your fear or is there anything that helped you feel better?

Hey Mum , I’ve been wondering how do you guys do it? How is life being a mum to 2 on the twos? I’ll have a 15 month gap between my children and I’m just wondering. HOW?! Especially in the newborn phase, how do you not neglect the first child? But also give the attention the second child needs 😭 it’s feeling…

You owe your kids. Idc what anyone says, you do. You owe them a solid foundation. You owe them unconditional love. You owe them your time. You owe them experiences. You owe them your loyalty. You owe them a lot. They didn’t ask to be here. Stop giving your kids the bare minimum.

37 weeks today and just tried collecting colostrum for the first time, managed to get 2 full syringes so pretty proud with that! 😅 Feel like I could’ve got more but started feeling a bit sicky so stopped at 2, has anyone else had this?

For those who have changed their child’s surname, how long was the process from start to finish please?

Hi, what has everyone had to eat on the morning of their transfer? So mine is scheduled for 10 am. Last time I just drank water to have a semi full bladder. Didn’t eat anything. First FET failed, didn’t implant. Just wondering 💭

Anyone else not able to get some colostrum 38 weeks 😭

Anyone else have grandparents that are obsessed with baby which is lovely but SO overwhelming wanting me come to see her or texting daily

thoughts on owning a gun as a mother? i’m just curious. if you have it on your person can’t someone else get a hold of it? if it’s in your purse can’t someone else or your child access it? if its locked in your safe (where it should be) and you have an intruder, it’s not like you’ll have time to go unlock the saf...

I’m a white woman I’m 19 and I’m having my first child. The father of the child is still with me. And a lot of strangers when they find out I’m pregnant with a mixed race child assume that I’m just fetishising black men. And they also assume that I’ll be racist to my own child or that I won’t treat them the same. Is...

I'm watching Little fires everywhere and it's really got me scratching my head on what opinion/whose side to take. Children are always going to seek out their bio parents, but I'm also really mad about what the bio mum did, I don't care about the reason why. Who leaves their BABY on their own at night in the cold...

Hi all- my nursery keeps calling my mixed race son by the name of the other black child in his class. How would you approach this?

Anyone else trying to raise a kid while having a toxic mother who is in your business way more than before you had a kid? Making everything infinitely more difficult while saying they are there to help you?

Hey everyone and welcome newbies😊 I'd like to make this group more active. I am currently going through a rough patch with home life and I think one of the things that may help me is normalising the ugly side of parenting. Now don't get me wrong I love my crazy humans, but you only ever see the good on the…

My 6th egg retrieval was today. I got 3 when 2/3 years ago I’d get 5-7. Please can you give my your stories with similar numbers? They changed my medications this round so idk if that has anything to do with it?

I don’t understand why many moms come into this group and the other mixed race group and complain about relatives and friends commenting on their child’s appearance when that’s the majority of the post in these groups. If it’s not “guess my child’s ethnicity” when the child is either white presenting or some shade ...

So I'm thinking about trying soon for baby no.2, but I'm super hesitant, really, only because ... my first one is like the devil's spawn 😂. I love her to bits, but my gosh, she is a handful at times... I've heard that if the first born is challenging, then the 2nd is docile, but I've also heard that baby no.2 can…

Do any other step mamas feel trapped in terms of parenting style, in that you can’t develop your own style with your own child(ren) because there is a style already adopted with your step children and it wouldn’t be fair to parent them in a different way? If so, how did you find/navigate this? I’m struggling with ...

Hi all We took our 3 year old son to an alpaca farm today.. he is the only kid at the farm and is quite excited and restless to go in to touch alpacas and feed them .. my son is quite vocal and is echolaliac .. One of the couple from the group seemed annoyed of him .. and adding to this my son happened to bump in...

Baby boy is now 9 days old, and for some reason I’m really letting it get to me that we’ve received fewer cards/gifts than we did first time around 😢 I know that sounds really shallow but it’s still a huge life event for us, but I guess people seem to think you must be fine second time? My love language is gift…