Yes, I’m on that time as well. I’ll go to war about mine! and definitely not giving those people no access to baby !
Stand your ground and let them know verbally if they cant respect your boundaries as a parent they wont be allowed the privilege to visit.
Everyone sees a new baby and automatically doesn’t care it seems. With my older kids I started baby wearing. I also started taking baby back the moment someone either crossed a boundary or was about to. I’d tell them that until they can respect my rules and wishes as a parent they don’t get access to baby